In both sexes, therefore, there is a mixture of both liberal, modern attitudes and social conservatism regarding gender roles and relationships, with individuals themselves often holding conflicting views simultaneously. Most Singaporean men, likewise, are content with this dynamic, although perhaps less enamoured of the expenditure involved. Marriage as an institution continues to be valued by men and women, young and old and across all ethnic groups in Singapore, and is considered a significant milestone in life. This is one of the many paradoxes around dating and marriage-most Singaporeans hold the view that marriage is the state to which all should aspire, and yet growing numbers remain unmarried. Young Singaporeans, raised on ideas of high achievement, material wealth and upward mobility set criteria that their prospective partner needs to meet, yet increasingly it is thought that they simply set the bar too high, creating unrealistic standards that very few people could attain. There is added pressure on marriage because cohabitation is not common in Singapore.