The following six women are all dating a person who's got at least a decade on them. They discuss the pitfalls and surprising advantages! Once you get past your twenties, age means nothing in love and relationships. Despite the age difference, we always have a lot to talk about and our lives are very similar, too. He has really good hair and genes! He has a house, I live in an apartment near campus. We have almost nothing in common, but I love that.
I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences. Why would you date someone that old? I have nothing against guys my age; I have tried dating them, but I have constantly come across the following:.
I started my media career at age 9 at a community TV station and my ambition level went up from there. The only thing probably missing in my life is a partner, a published book and an owned property maybe even a small business?
Marry someone at least ten years older than you and
I can count them on maybe a hand and a half. I was teased and picked on a lot from the kids at school. But something I could relate to well was adults. My father was a businessman who ran a successful chiropractor practice. I was around adults all my life - events, parties, meetings - so I really knew it no other way.
Jan 06, "I am dating someone who is close to 20 years older than me and one major perk, if I'm being honest, is that he has money. It's not new money (or young money) where he wants to go out and blow. Jun 28, Thank you all so much for all of the questions! I definitely loved filming this style video so if you want another, thumbs this up! & comment down below your question/advice-needed-scenario. I'm. May 30, I have been with someone who was 9 years younger than I was and 7 years younger. I am very active so I thought it would be better to find someone who was younger. Though that ct was correct, the rest of the relationship was lacking enough that.
That relationship was fun and short-lived, but what I've learned since then has taken me a long way when dating older men. He cares about his future and even retirement.
The older men are the calmest human beings. This is great for me, since I am a whirlwind during the week and it balances me out. With endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.
For me, I always had "boundaries" for myself which I think was healthy to do. Otherwise I could have fallen for anyone who seemed like a great guy and told me that he loved me. For me, he couldn't be older than me by years. (Which meant, that I would no sooner marry a 50 year old than an 80 year old!) Strong Christian. Never divorced.
When I would go away on trips and had my guy take care of my apartment, I always came home to flowers on the table, chocolate or homemade gifts.
Besides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too. The choices we make now will affect us for generations to come. And yes, I am a Christian and look forward to Heaven! Just following our hearts can lead to disaster and many a heartache. Marriage is such a blessing but it also has its challenges. Why add to the challenges by marrying someone as old as your father?
Otherwise I could have fallen for anyone who seemed like a great guy and told me that he loved me. Which meant, that I would no sooner marry a 50 year old than an 80 year old! Strong Christian. Never divorced. It was a short list but it was my guide so I would never be tempted to compromise.
And with all the predators around, one has to be cautious about why there is an attraction there. If so, why? Not trying to bring anyone down or anything though.
This applies to possible spouses of any age. I appreciated the maturity and stability and yes, wrinkles, of an more cultured man. I think most of the women that like this post will understand that. It was not an arranged marriage, although my parents heartily approved of the match.
He was never married before me. He did not pursue me. He was stable and secure financially, emotionally and spiritually.
Growing older at different paces made me feel uncomfortable. I know this sounds super shallow but it was weird to me that he was going to physically age a lot sooner than I would. I was attracted to him in the way that he looked then, but I don't think I was prepared for that to change at a faster pace than would occur if I dated a guy my age. Oct 13, In their defense, I hardly grew up dating or crushing on men close to my age group. I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the Author: Kateri Wozny. Aug 23, 11 Signs You Should Try Dating Someone Older Than You. By Carolyn Steber. It doesn't matter if they're three years older, ten, or more - they still could be your perfect jankossencontemporary.com: Carolyn Steber.
I was also stable, and was not scrambling for a mate. I was not jumping for the first guy that came along. I had more boundaries in my life than anyone else I knew. The Lord brought us together in a beautiful way, and marrying Marty was the best non-salvational decision I ever made. I hope this helps you understand.
I guess for me I had always been that girl who was never attracted to baby face boys nor the older, wrinkly type. I mean, would they be okay marrying a 60 or 70 or 80 year old too?
Obviously your situation was different and very God and parent honoring. And I can see you two are meant for each other! You have a treasure.
My concerns are coming from situations where I have seen older divorced guys seemingly only go after younger, attractive women and it seems to only end in chaos the instances I know of anyway. You are so right. There are a ton of bad examples of marriage out there. Age is not so much the factor as character flaws in the individuals.
In my opinion. It was very easy for Marty and me to relate to each other. Thank you so much for your feedback!
I appreciate this conversation. What a fun post!
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I love all the above reasons and find that most of them do ring true for us as well. He definitely appreciates me a lot,and knows how to cook pretty good too so I am often blessed on long work days to come home to a terrific meal! Especially number seven, hahah. Aww, I loved this post.
When I was about 13, people were constantly assuming that I was in my twenties. Needless to say, I fit in the older crowd much better than with those my age. My husband and I are a perfect fit. My fiance is 16 years older then me, I am 27 and he will be 44 when we marry. I LOVE 7. Our age difference has never bothered me, He had no problem waiting, he has never been married, or children.
He knew his wife would come.
Dating someone ten years older than me
I love knowing that There are many other couples out there with out situation. How fun to read this post! The ones I typically come across are about marrying young or what not. I am so Honored, that God placed Tasha in my life, when He did!
My Kiki! If so, which type s best describe you and your husband? The last one is especially precious. I read the list to my husband and he laughed and nodded the whole way through. A lot of people speak badly about a couple with a unique age difference. So both you and your man have to grow a thick skin. I am cherished and appreciated and loved in a very special way. What a great article!
I think that if our age difference is the biggest difference we have, then we are doing much better than lots of other couples!!
Well, congratulations! Five months is still definitely newlyweds!
Jan 23, The 8-year rule states that you shouldn't date anyone outside of an 8-year age range. I am aware there are possibilities where two people can successfully date with an age gap of more than eight Author: Scott Spinelli. Mar 11, 1. We don't want to go to your friend's rave. It's not like a guy who's five years older than you is going to be taking you out for the Denny's early bird special ever day before promptly going to. Aug 17, When I was 25, I spent a year dating a man 20 years older than me. Before the Older Man, I'd never been in a relationship with someone of a significantly different age-older or younger-but I Author: Karley Sciortino.
Its been such a blessing stumbling across this website today. I am 21 and currently seeing a 34 yrs old guy. Technically he is 12 yrs older not 13,but because my birthday is all the way in December and his in January, the moment I turn a year older, he is right behind me.
I prayed about us from the very beginning and so far I can say God has been faithful.
However when reality started hitting me that he may very well be my husband, a kind of overwhelming fear hit me. Even though I have always been attracted to older men I was kind of scared about the disadvantages that comes with marrying someone way older, like outgrowing each other and him not being active enough to raise our kids together especially because my parents marriage has been a nightmare and they are 15years apart. To be honest he is everything I want in a husband.
Despite the age difference, we play and goof around a lot and I like that he can be my friend as well as a teacher when I need him to seeing that he has had some experiences that I am yet to have. But am having so much peace right now about us.
Thanks Natasha, and everyone else for sharing.
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