The subject who is truly loyal to the Chief Magistrate will neither advise nor submit to arbitrary measures. This article was published more than 10 years ago. Some information in it may no longer be current. I am a successful fiftysomething woman, in love with a fellow who tokes high-powered cannabis morning, noon and night. He's always high and suffers from memory loss and emotional irregularity. He withdraws for days at a time if I so much as look at him in a way that suggests he has a deficiency his word not mine. Otherwise he's perfect!
While exposure to pot may not be good for you, exposure to different music and movies will invariably deepen your pop culture palate. They're low-stress.
Isn't it annoying to date someone who doesn't know how to relax? They have funny stories to tell. Ask him about the first time he got high, and watch him launch into an epic tale of misdeeds. If you've already heard that story, ask him whether he's ever gotten close to being busted yeswhether he's ever sneaked someone a pot brownie yesor how she met her dealer.
When a high goes wrong, they can help out. We recently read a story on Gothamist about two high school girls who were hospitalized after eating a pot brownie. Not everyone takes to marijuana, but you can trust a stoner to know what to do when someone needs help during a bad trip. On a related note, while YourTango does not condone illegal activity, we will recommend consulting your pot-smoking boyfriend if you ever feel like trying it out.
You should not attempt to get high for the first time without an experienced person present. You might accidentally eat a pot brownie.
Or if he's a jerk, he might sneak you some or make you feel like a total prude for not wanting to smoke up. If he or she can't respect your choices or he makes you feel guilty about them, move on. Otherwise, stay far, far away from home-baked pastries. You get used to the funky smell. This is the same problem non-smokers have when they date a cigarette smoker.
Do you really want to come out from his apartment smelling like burnt rope? Stoners deny the side effects, but you'll have to deal with them anyway. Pot proponents often argue that marijuana is healthier than alcohol and nicotine since it's all natural and supposedly non-addictive. That doesn't mean they won't suffer a few inconvenient side effects, which include a lower sperm count, a faster aging process, and depression from emotional withdrawal.
I think the cannabis has affected his emotional development. He's been doing it for many years. I have sought help and have lots of information for him about assessments and treatment. When I presented all this, he stormed off and disappeared. It's been five weeks.
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I don't want to cut him out of my life just for the sake of my values. Is there a way to have both? Because, at least from what I've heard cough, cough, columnist's eyes dart around fishilythe whole point of smoking pot is to disengage from, and tune out, everything and everyone around you.
Jun 02, Don't stereotype your date for being a stoner. The stigma of smoking weed is fading as time goes on (at least in the United States), but many people still assume stoners are lazy, have bad personal hygiene, or only care about getting high. However, these generalizations simply do not apply to all stoners and going into a relationship with one having preconceived 72%(75). Aug 08, Can a couple survive when only one is a pothead? Does weed make sex mind-blowing or forgettable? Here, eight readers light up the highs and lows of dating in the stoned jankossencontemporary.com: Molly Oswaks. 'SimDa' Dating App Mod is one of my favorite mods by on of my favorite modders, LittleMsSam (make sure to check out her other mods too)! It allows more dating options for your sims, similar to the matchmaker in The Sims 2. Find that cute stranger you passed by in the street, or choose a random person that you just thinAuthor: Simmingpothead.
Apparently, when you "get high," you float around on a fragrant, nirvanalicious cloud of "mellow vibes," soaring above about the "hassles" of everyday existence. Potheads don't like to deal with things, they don't like friction and confrontation: that's why they get high in the first place!
But now you're "harshing his mellow" with your demands that he engage with you and meet your needs. Which probably has him groping for his stash more desperately than ever. He may need to smoke a whole baggie of hydroponic to get high enough to ignore the querulous beefs of someone as close to him as you.
Don't get me wrong. Pot, like alcohol, like anything, is great in moderation, and everyone has the right to relax.
But frankly, I wouldn't get involved with a morning-noon-night type pot-smoker at all. At some point, on some level, these "wake and bake" types have pretty much decided to check out.
Research on marijuana addiction is inconclusive, but you can bet that anything that comes between a smoker and his "chronic" has to go. And that includes human beings, even those who love the round-the-clock stoner - which is terribly sad. The best things in life, in my view, are a the feeling you get when, after a bunch of hard work, you accomplish something you're proud of; b loving and being loved, taking care of and being taken care of, by other human beings.
Getting high, they tell me, mimics these feelings, except without all the drag of hard work and the hassle of getting involved with human beings and their problems and needs.
I'm not saying give up on this guy.
All people and situations are salvageable: that's the whole point of this column. Rather, I would say: Drop an ultimatum on his fuzzy, pot-clouded melon: "It's me or the bong, buster.
Honestly, I don't like your chances in the short-term. If he disappears for five weeks when presented with a fistful of health-care brochures, I imagine he won't react well to your ultimatum.
He'll wonder why you're being so "uptight," why you're "freaking out" on him, and why he can't have both you and his beloved bud, dude. But make it clear he can't. Because if you give in, let him have both, it will end in tears and heartbreak, I can pretty much assure you. He will always, on some level, be disengaged, checked out, in his own little world. I mean, apart from everything else, you didn't mention what he does for a living. I can't imagine what he could do well in his permanently lifted state - and therefore how could you respect him?
He needs to face reality, head-on.
Dating or living with a marijuana addict can be overwhelming. Marijuana addiction can create turmoil in relationships whether they be with family members, friends or spouses. People who smoke pot, tend to hang around with other people who smoke pot. This enables the pot user to not feel guilty about the amount that they are smoking. Problems arise in a relationship when . May 01, A real lasting relationship with a common love for ganja is now possible through these special dating sites created for potheads. Love-seeking potheads, look no further. We know how complicated it can be finding a partner you're compatible with - finding one who tokes too can be equally as difficult. Jul 09, I'm dating a pothead. David Eddie. From Thursday's Globe and Mail. Published July 9, ated May 3, Published July 9, This article was published more than 10 years ago. Some.
If it's hard on you, just tell yourself you're helping him. If he buggers off permanently, that's his call.
Apr 20, The pros and cons of dating a pothead who likes weed as much as Willie Nelson seems to. As someone who had never smoked anything, I Author: Denise Ngo.
But perhaps, in a lucid moment, somewhere down the line, he'll realize he's made a mistake trading love for his beloved weed. Unfortunately, from what I've seen of these types of characters, that probably won't happen.
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They're too attached to their herbal anodyne. If so, congrats.
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You'll have the great guy, the great sex, the fun bike rides, and the added bonus that he'll be grateful to you for helping him reform himself and get off the pipe. If not, well, perhaps by then you'll have moved on. And if you bump into him in the street, he probably won't even remember your name, let alone that you were ever upset with him. Have you created any damage that needs controlling?
When I first started dating my pothead ex, I thought he was the coolest guy I've ever met. He was super easygoing, so funny, and a blast to be around. Then I realized that his life pretty much revolved around weed and he was literally high 24/7, which got old pretty quickly. Thankfully, dating a pothead means that you will never have to worry about not coming up with a gift idea for them. Finally, you'll need to find your own way to mellow out. The least tip I have dealing with learning how to date a stoner is learning to mimic their mellow vibes. Stoners use cannabis to unwind. Jul 10, The illustrious stoner boy: a breed that must have been created by the Gods of sex and cannabis. Think about it: Guys are great, weed is phenomenal and when you combine the two, you get a better Author: Cashie Rohaly.
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