Emotional maturity is defined by the ability to control your emotions and take full responsibility for your life along with its opportunities and dramas. A large part of being emotionally mature is having the ability to handle anger, disappointment, guilt, resentment, fear, jealousy, disappointment, grief, insecurity, and a myriad of other feelings appropriately. Emotional maturity is defined when you have the ability to experience these emotions and then quickly let them go. People who are immature seem to remain stuck in these negative emotions, unable to get past them. Emotional maturity is the ability to see life clearly and accurately, and to deal with it. It means you must live your life in the present, not in the past or the future, and definitely not in make believe. If you allow negative emotions more time or energy than they deserve they will take a lasting toll your life and possibly subsume your future.
Processing their emotional experiences could be very overwhelming for them, or tap into some sort of vulnerability or shame that causes them to shut down or withdraw, rather than being able to explain and process these complicated feelings. Intimacy involves opening yourself up, sharing, connecting and brings about a sense of closeness, affection, and familiarity. You will feel them distance themselves at a time when you could really use a rock in your life.
Healthy and successful relationships are built on communication, which enables emotional intimacy. Processing your feelings about the relationship out loud in the moment, instead of just thinking it to yourself, may encourage your partner to do the same. You can also suggest going to couples therapywhere a professional, like me, can ask questions and help guide you in developing more emotional maturity and intimacy together. This post was originally published on Love Successfully and shared with permission.
The Job Search have you feeling frustrated? Im a often self-reflective guy, and i know i have similar problems, but just couldnt find a better solution to adjusting my crocked mindset.
I know how ugly it is when my emotions get unstable, and i agree with the posters above.
I dont like the way i am, and i find myself digusted with myself at times. I was wondering if counselling might be an option for me? Possessiveness is not the issue. A lot of insecurities are rooted in abandonment issues, but the best way to figure out what this is, is to do counselling.
A good therapist will ask you questions that will enable you to see things from a different point of view. They can only be effective if you are comfortable with them.
I just want to thank you for this. I have learned so much from this. I have just left a very mentally draining relationship and feel my ex was definitely suffering with this mental illness of immaturity. I have been reading up on Narcissim also, which I noticed u have mentioned. What should I do!
What can you possibly do? He has to go, he has to apply himself, and he has to decide he wants to get well. What you can do is get counselling for yourself. Anyone who has been involved with people like this will have their own issues to resolve.
There is a relationship between two parties and it kind of takes two to tango. It is often called rescuer and victim. The relationship started intense from the start and move probably too fast. She has three young kids that all have anxiety disorder and impulse control issues. They regularly had 3 year old meltdowns and it took a while for me to understand that they were modeling their mom.
She would become emotionally dysregulated and would end up curling up in fetal position or going into a rage. The amount of emotional blackmail and abuse that I endured was crazy. It finally spiraled to her attempting to physically dominate me by not allowing me to leave rooms while she was emotionally abusing me. I came to understand this to be physical abuse no matter how you slice or dice it.
Game over. I thought for a while that she is borderline or narcissistic. At the very least, she is emotionally immature and a class A manipulator.
I hoped for change, but it was not to be. Find a mature, like minded person who has the ability to have an emotionally intimate relationship. I love this article and can relate dealing with step daughter who thinks that every thing I say to her regarding her infant is out to get her and has gotten her boyfriend on her side who gets defensive with any question I ask regarding their baby as a simple one about how the baby is breastfeeding?
I wish I would have stumbled upon this article 6 months ago. Anyway, she found me a year later and we started talking. I wanted to keep things simple and friendly but she quickly started expressing how much she liked me and how much she watched me in the past. She even told her ex about me which made the ex think her and I had a relationship while they were together.
She called me at all hours of e night, text me all day and night. I admit, I loved her attention but she kept making excuses not to go out with me. Some I felt were valid, but being human and wanting to actually have the physical presence I often asked her to go out with me. Basically I was feeling self conscious. She was disappointed but got over it. She started talking to me about her ex a lot, and how her ex was obligated to do whatever she wanted her ex to do.
At one time she told me I should have talked to her when we saw each other before, that things would be different now and that we could have had a romance, I was disturbed by that because she was in a relationship at that time. But blindness prevails. Some minutes she was taking about how much she adored me, missed me, liked me Some minutes she was asking me if I felt we were setting ourselves up for failure.
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She always seemed to want me to agree with her fears and feelings. Was I scared? Of course. I guess I should have let it. I was pressuring her. When I ignored her, I was being mean and making her restless. Idid get to see her, twice a grand total of an hour and a half in a parking lot. So in time I became frustrated by her and naturally started shutting down or snapping at her. She would text me at odd hours saying she wanted to see me but fell asleep, I would ask her to see me during the day but suddenly she had to do laundry.
Finally she shut me out when a drunk friend of mine saw her out with her ex and took pictures. Whaaaatttt the fuuuug? I just wanted dinner, that was all. I have been to this site more than five time to read this article.
I am still in shock of how dead on this article is concerning the father of my child. Everything down to the last word is him. We are both 27 ten days apart with me being the oldest with one child together. Its has been a struggle to get threw to him about how his action really hurt people.
And I just cant deal with his childish, disrespectful, hostile ways anymore. I am to the point to where I want to pack my daughter and I up and move to a different state just so I want have to deal with him. So my question is how to deal with an emotional immature person when you have a child with them. Would family counselling help or is it best to just run. Oh yeah he also abuse weed and alcohol to. Trust and believe I understand you totally. He is 33 and I am 37 so it is a struggle regardless of your age.
I would definitely recommend counseling. Some people never grow up. It depends on how fixed their ideas are, and how much they are willing to do the work to change themselves. I just wanted to thank you for this very concise and informative article about emotionally immature people. I have had a very troubled relationship with my mother for four decades, often internalizing my anger and frustration to my own detriment.
I cannot express thoroughly enough how much your words have helped me come to terms with why she is the way she is. Thank you so much for this brilliant article. I felt you were talking about my mother in law! Instead, I have been trying to explain what you have mentioned here to her, and I occasionally would succeed for few days before things go back the same old way. Her submissive dad has definitely contributed heaps to this problem decades before I met my wife.
My bf grew up with a submissive mother so has no idea respect for a strong independent woman like myself. It makes me question why these people chose someone who they would never be compatible with? The article even mentioned that these emotionally immature people are better off with someone who will go along with whatever they want so why chose us?
Is hoping they can control and dominate part of the appeal? Unlike most readers, I read this article and kept finding thankfully not to strong resemblances to myself.
I have struggled all my life to be as mature emotionally as my peer group, and I have always lagged by a few years, never able to quite catch up with their maturity. And, despite all my effort, I have never been able to reconcile myself to some cts of so-called civilization with grace.
Why do we burn so much fossil fuel rather than implement world-class public transportation? Why do we waste so much plastic and send it to landfill? Why do we have so much disdain for people in other lands? When I spoke about these things to my emotionally mature peer group, they gave me pitying looks and gently tell me to grow up and move along. So I did, but I seem to be no happier. But at least I know well enough not to bother anyone with these thoughts.
Those thoughts illustrate intellectual maturity and care about things beyond yourself. That seems mature to me. I care about these things too EI. Perhaps its your friends that lack the maturity not you.
Or perhaps its the way you deliver these subjects.
Food for thought. I think your friends lack emotional maturity. Caring for the planet that sustains us and is the reason for our existence is immature?
I think you should start spending time with like-minded people. If everybody continues to use plastic and fossil fuel without regard, the world will be a nightmarish place by Kylie, I know exactly how you feel. I have been with my husband for 15 years. Not sure why it has taken me so long to realize his immaturity. Love truly is blind sometimes.
Although, I must say, he has a lot of mature qualities. I accept that is how he is, but I must say, it is extremely challenging and I am becoming drained.
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Counseling is definitely out. I am a peace keeper. Right now he is ignoring me and my first instinct is to fix it. So I either confront him tonight and get his issue out on the table or I let him continue his silent treatment. Guess it will depend on what I am dealing with when I get home. Tired of walking around on eggshells.
Good luck with your situation and no you are not alone! More the one friend has referred to him as immature. I am currently full time renovating the house we are meant to be moving into. Unexpectantly I have found myself questioning him. I am in very male environment with the reno and somehow during this have come to see the type of man I really want vs the type of man I have. He still justifies defrauding the govt. He and I are lucky all he has to do is repay the money with no interest are criminal charges.
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This hurt me. There are many other things as well. Thank you for this. Is being sensitive a sign of immatureness. Thanks for the article. Thank you, you have just helped me on the way to come to terms with losing someone I cared for very much. He did say he had a problem with alcohol. I now realise his problem is not a minor issue and has deep seated effects. I just hope he becomes the man I know he wants to be. Certain traits mentioned above have been pointed in me by my boyfriend.
I react very easily, without thinking and have low tolerance of anger. My ego always gets the best of me. We would argue for hrs, until finally I admit my mistake and apologise.
But not before long, we would again argue the same way over petty issues. Our fights are repetitive and frustrating. I want to rise above this and develop emotional maturity. It is tough, and I want to do this for my peace of mind. I cant afford the services of a therapist, but I could use some help. Some people never grow up emotionally. Often they just get worse. It seems that as the body ages, so does the mind. Frailties become more pronounced, particularly when immaturity is overlapped by other issues such as NPD or BPD, as it often is.
Rather than growing emotionally, they can actually regress and lose whatever ability they had of controlling their juvenile outbursts.
My husband and I have just accepted that our 25 year old daughter is a classic example of emotional immaturity. It comes down to her assuming responsibility for her life We have not spoken for 4 days now as the last time we spoke she was raging about another issue at work she felt she was being unfairly treated.
When I didnt agree with her perception she had a "temper tantrum" and left. I know in her mind she has twisted things and I was cruel, unsupported her etc. I have always given in when she pulls this because I worry etc. This time I am not - I had already told her a few days before that I felt she was emotionally immature and that I knew I had enabled her and that I would no longer do so.
She needs to be responsible for herself, her choices and how she treats her parents. It is so incredibly hurtful though as I know she is aware how much she is hurting us - I can just keep reminding myself we are doing the right thing Actually should have done it long ago. Thanks for sharing this topic. This is totally me and I would like to fix. I always feel like I want to fix this problem, but when something happened I am totally blind from everything and I can just see only my point of view.
Although I have been try to remember to not act like this. But I am still not sure how I can fix it. Great and well said article! It had pin pointed what I am dealing with in my husband. We have been married for two and a half years and the immaturity only seems to be getting worse instead of better.
I have several family members who fit this pattern. Not taking responsibility for their misdeedsblaming others and denying culpability. Passive aggressive behavior to vent anger and revenge when life, due to their own poor choices, has gone awry. Crazymaking behaviors which include lying or twisting the truth AND portraying themselves as the victim and the healthy more mature person as the victimizer of THEM.
They are skilled at forever being the victim! These are toxic folks who are skilled at infecting others with guilt, anger, and fear.
Run and let them lie in the crappy beds that THEY made! Great article that highlights very well the patterns of emotionally stunted individuals. Thank you. I feel empathetic towards that person and wish them luck in life, but know they will never truly function in life until they deal with their lies, selfishness and ignorance.
I pray for them and keep it pushing. She has no desire to participate in any school events - she never met the teachers this year.
Just shoots down everyone. NO desire to do any activity with the kids. Same excuses. Last week at a family vacation, with her father gravely ill, she had to argue with her sisters about who gives care. Everything that happens to her is always someones fault but never hers. Instead, she self medicates with alcohol, which only makes it worse. When they leave for college, I leave. Look for signs.
She has no friends. Everything is about her. Her family is more important than yours. A situation nearly identical to this took me into a tailspin and was the driving factor for creating this site. The only thing I want to say about this post is this:. Think of the example you set for your children.
They will marry a spouse exactly like your wife. Do you want them to live like that, repeat the cycle over again. Once you are finally away from her, you will understand just how damaging this is to you. You need time away to really get a true perspective. Wow spot on! I just realised after one year together that this is why my partner is like this! I have some big decisions to make. This article is empowering for me!
I married and lived with the person described in that article. The drama never ended. There is no way in hell you can help someone who is emotionally immature, they are always steps in front of you. They make decisions that are irrational and then, you are in their emotional roller-coaster! I am so happy to be free of the ups and downs, the unstable life. I never felt safe with him, he always seemed to be just out of reach.
His love in life was money, and he made damn sure that he took every cent or possession away from me that he could. He spun the most fantastic Web, told the most fantastic stories, and I suffered, suffered and suffered some more. Control is paramount to the emotionally immature! I will give an example of just how skewed their thinking is this true life event still haunts me. The atv flipped over onto my daughter, crushing her face and chipping a vertebrae, fracturing her pelvis and so on and so on.
She was in the trauma unit and stayed there for a week. Due to seriousness of her injuries, she had a social worker come in and see her through rehabilitation. So, the insurance company is involved and my daughter was receiving money for physio therapy, prescription drugs etc.
I forgot to mention that his son actually picked the ATV up off of my daughter. That is how the emotionally immature person thinks!
I feel so enlightened after reading this. This is written so clearly and it makes sense out of the craziness I lived with. I did go to a counselor 3 yrs into the marriage, but I made the decision to stay as my first divorce had been so ugly and hard on me. I regret that decision, but I cannot change anything now.
I have been divorced 6 years and still recovering from the effects of his behavior. Our daughters are too, they just have not fully realized it yet. However, they both know something is not right with him, we just did not have the words to put to it. Emotional immaturity and some NPD. I want to say how I ended up marrying this man so other will be more aware. My first husband hooked up with his older secretary and moved in with her.
He actually wanted both of us, but I could not agree to that. I divorced him. The other woman and my ex husband then dragged me through the courts trying to destroy me and make me look bad.
It ended up the other way and they looked very bad. Lots of emotional toll for me and money all because of their irrational behavior.
I did counseling, and worked on me, building up my self esteem and self confidence, but I was still pretty weak. About 1. I did not want to get married, I did not need to, I had a job, a house, I was financially independent, and working on me. However, he was needy and kept working on me, wearing me down, eroding my new weak self confidence.
I did not realize it, he was grooming me for his control. I often question if he knew what he was doing, or it was just his nature, I honestly do not know. He had me married to him in 7 months of meeting me that is a red flag right there. He continued to wear me down, I kept trying harder and harder to do right, but it was never enough. He could not be pleased, he had to have his way or he through a tantrum. My mental health deteriorated.
Aug 31, If this sounds familiar, you might be dating someone who is emotionally immature. Emotional immaturity can reflect a lack of depth and understanding about one's own emotions, inability to communicate and process things related to the relationship, as well as lack of empathy and ability to understand your partner's emotional experiences. Signs You Are Dating An Immature Woman or Man. It is my personal belief that every person comes into our life for a reason. If this is true, it is important for us to consider the spiritual tests that come with each friendship to allow us to grow. Lack of emotional maturity can spark problems within any relationship. To maintain a healthy relationship, both partners must be able to communicate effectively and be emotionally fine spending time with or without the other person. Signs of emotional immaturity are largely evident in behavior. Watch for tell-tale.
His behavior got uglier and more abusive. Both I and the girls got the mental abuse and physical abuse from his uncontrolled anger. When I finally left it was my youngest daughter saying she did not understand why I stayed and that I would never leave. I was afraid. Afraid to stay, afraid to leave. But I did leave, only regrets that I did not leave sooner.
I am wiser, learning so much more about life than ever dreamed i would. So thankful to have read this article as it pulls together so many fragments of what was wrong in the relationship and why it just could not work out.
Thank you for writing this. I see how my behaviour upsets and hurts those closest to me like my mother and boyfriend but I genuinely struggle to reign in my actions and immature words. Self-Discipline is one important ct. Practice compassion and humility. Do things that build your own self-confidence so that you are less likely to be triggered by fear or insecurity. Thanks so much for this article. My wife has this problem and it is driving our marriage down the drain. I have always tried to be the sober one but I realize my patience is getting drained too.
At times I think am the one on the wrong but sooner or later, it becomes clear. To her am the one who should change and leave my friends so her insecurity can stop. I have tried to bring her along to most meetings with friends. She either would refuse to go or spoil the whole thing by staying away from the gathering or looking bored n wanting to leave. As we speak we just came from hospital n our one yr old has TB. The doctor said his immunity is very low which I know is from poor feeding.
This is because I took her to hospital to be checked n when she got booked for ex ray she refused to go after paying for it. She can refuse to go to church just because am not around. Am thinking of visiting a therapist but I think she needs a separate session. I am from a family who will never discuss issues, you are verbally attacked sometimes even physically just when you dare to have a mature point of view.
I have decided that I do not like my family because they are all unhealthy controllers and deny any accountability for their actions. You are screamed at or personally insulted and best of all the Bible is used to show you according to them the error of your ways. JCH -At least you recognize there is a problem with them and not with you. Talk to someone you trust. There is NO excuse for emotional or physical abuse! If you are old enough to leave, I recommend you do so.
Thank you so much for this article. Could you please suggest a book that can help provide tips to overcome this emotional immaturity. Much appreciated. Like other readers, I am grateful for this article and found that it brought illumination and clarity to a situation from my own life. Unlike other commenters, my situation is in the workplace. A coworker, while valued and appreciated nonetheless, creates a difficult dynamic due to what is, I think, emotional immaturity.
Would you have any advice for managing an emotionally immature employee? Thank you for this article, it does a great job explaining the signs and symptoms of Emotional Immaturity.
The article could be more useful if it included what causes Emotional Immaturity, and what to do when someone close to you exhibits signs of Emotional Immaturity. Emotional Immaturity is often caused by parents splitting up, children finding fame, or some other major life-changing event a child may experience.
In many cases it is easier for the child to not revisit those painful memories and so this reinforces the dissociation, stunting further development. When the pain is revisited in adult hood, through a trigger of some kind, the person will react at the age-level when the pain was first experienced. In an effort to prevent such triggers, an adult may compensate by overly controlling the environment and people around them. In the case of child fame, a child receives allot of attention.
They react as if they were the age when they first experienced fame take Britney Spears for example. This may lead to a temper tantrum or head shaving. These reactive behaviors can be manageable when the child is 5 years old, however these behaviors can be quite upsetting or even dangerous in the case of a full grown adult.
The road to recovery starts when you first recognize and admit there is a problem. Understand why you are behaving and reacting the way you are.
There is professional help for people who have suffered childhood trauma. Not everyone who is Emotionally Immature is a lost cause. This blog has not discussed Borderline Personality or Narcisssm, both is emotional immaturity taken to a new level. There are many factors that can contribute to a person growing up to be immature for their age.
Sometimes it only manifests itself in certain limited situations, and with other people, it may be prevelent in all areas of their life. Traumatic experiences during childhood are only one issue. There is also attachment issues and temperment. Temperment makes the difference between one person having a serious disorder and another person in the circumstance being just fine. I need help!.
I think my wife is emotionally immature. Personally i think that the best way is to talk about our differences, and try to find a solution for it. Whenever there is an argument, she rather be alone then trying to find a solution or says we will talk later about this. I give her the space she needs, but then i tried to talk to her again, she listens for 5 minutes and the same thing happens.
She gets upset, mad of almost everything. We own a house, but she says she would rather live in an attic or basement, and have money to buy stuff. Whenever we have an argument, even if its something small, she would make a huge scene, and threatening me of getting a divorce. I dont know what can i do to make our marriage work. Wow and Wow I feel so bad about my life right now. I feel in love with an emotional man.
He delivers unlimited storms seem like one after the other. Lord what am I missing in my own life. I have been faithful to this man. About three years ago he was sent to prison I grew emotionally drained and decided to move on with my life. I really love this man but all he does is drain me out. He recently was released and we talked things over.
We decided to get married this month and I thought things was going to work out. Well he decides to play mind games and tell me the day he was released he was picked up by someone he met while in prison and that they had been intimate and she is now pregnant. I pray that I will overcome falling for emotional monsters. Be Safe Everyone. I am 32!!! Thank you for the great article. It brought me a peace of mind, and I realize that I should accept the very friend of mine who suits all the criteria above, and at the same time maintain caution as to not let myself be dragged into her negative, immature behavior.
Or do anyone have suggestions? Very nice article. After reading this article Could relate it to myself and realised that iam an emotional immature person. Was not able to digest but its fact. Its a good job by publishing an aticle on the behaviour of emotional immaturity.
But would be great if you can help out by guiding ways how to come out of it. I want to correct myself. I have culled a few articles that explain the process of emotional maturity. It takes a lot of work to retrain ones brain and ones habits. I can totally see my daughter here, she is so immature, she is 25 yet she expects me to cook, clean, have her at home rent-free. Thank you so much for sharing this article.
I have read it three times as I am currently trying to get over someone I recently let go for the very reasons in this article. It has been hard for me to let go because I noticed a lot of ambivalence in him.
There were times when he would admit that he needed to grow up in relational matters and then he would always revert back to old ways and then when confronted, start blaming or out right denying the issue. I felt torn because my love for him wanted to wait it out and stick with him but where do you draw the line? The personal comments on this site from people who say how hard it is to change this helps a bit.
But we are over 30 years old. It just seems that waiting around for it would be futile. Thanks for this. Like all of the commenters I also truly had my eyes opened. I honestly think god made me stumble upon this article. We have two young kids who need both of us soo much right now.
Hence I connot afford to sever this relationship now. I have sent this article to my wife and hope she gets herself to a councilor. Pls pray for me. Just read this article now after writing a blog about my experience with an emotionally mature man. You nailed it! Thanks for writing it. So good I had to share it!
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I have been in a relationship with an emotionally immature man for 4 years. He bullies to get his own way, is completely selfish and blames everyone but himself. Most frustratinglonely place to be. Time to reclaim my life. What an incredible article. Thank you for providing insight into this type of individual.
When I got married I had no idea what I was getting into. I am married to this type of person and all these years I thought there was something wrong with me but realized a couple years ago that it was not all me and that his mother and sister share this same trait at a toxic level.
Our children see this but I stay strong and consistently teach them to own up to their actions and to see things through. A thousand times thank you, I will consistently refer back to this article for strength.
What a great and insightful article but sadly it made me me cry. It has made me come to the conclusion that my husband and father of our 9 year old son is very emotionally immature. I have wanted a separation for quite a while now but have no idea how to go about it since I will not be dealing with a mature, rational person. I feel trapped and suffocated and my heart aches for my son. Wow, that was very informative. At first J said for us to get counseling bt always has an excuse.
I get counseling from christian preachers daily. Sadly many of us have been involved with emotionally immature, overly self-absorbed, narcissitic others. Again, my options as a small child were very limited.
I left at 18 by joining the military. But, out of a sense of obligation and with some hope that she would improve and grow as a person, I maintained a relationship with her sent money home, phone calls, regular visits when I had vacation days, etc.
If I had a time machine to go back and do it over again, that is the choice I would make. Too late now, the damage has already been done and I am still dealing with issues she helped create in my psyche. I feel so much better after reading this article and the replies. My 26 year old adopted daughter is a poster child for this disorder. She has never really dealt with issues even though she has seen therapists since high school.
Now she is back living with us in an apartment in the basement of our home after sabotaging a two year live in relationship with a really good guy. She has never been able to be alone.
And is self absorbed, and always has been. I pray she makes some break through with present therapist. And she is now an adult. I need to detach from her drama and that is so difficult as a mom. I should probably seek out therapy myself. What a hard road for all.
My heart goes out to everyone here. My father is an emotionally immature adult, and still at age 78, shows the tell tale signs. He also has OCD, and was abused as a child himself, having grown up during the depression, he was seen as a burden, along with his 4 siblings. Me and my brothers have learned how NOT to be a parent from him, and thankfully none of us share the emotional immaturity, except me being the only girl, took on the role of rescuer for such self-absorbed immature men.
He may also be bi-polar. Naturally since I am wired to fix my relationship with my father, I am always attracted to this kind of man, and now I have learned to recognize that whenever I am immediately attracted to someone and it is a supercharged spark, I must RUN. But you know what always ends up happening?
I feel my life essence draining away as if they are sucking the blood out of my bones. Have you ever been blamed for giving a gift? Or sending it too late or to the wrong address? I actually keep a blog of reasons why I should leave. But staying will invite more abuse.
Which is worse? And yet I keep going back. Why do I still love a man who hurts me? I need help, I know. Did u ever leave? I feel your pain. The sensitive sweet side of my bf is all I can think about when I debate leaving him. I am actually an emotionally immature man, I want and need help, any books, articles or a place to start, where I can get started in a path to maturity?
I was raised a roman catholic and suffered emotionally and physically at the hands of cruel clergy members. I was oppressed, depressed, anxiety ridden, and I felt tremendous resentment for being treated so unkindly. I learned how to take control of my inner self and accept life as it is, and to realize just how temporary and impermanent everything is.
I only look back at the happy times that I can remember with my family, friends, activities, etc. Those happier times will always put a grin on my old face:. Most importantly we all must learn to coexist with others.
There are tyrants in this world, but dropping bombs and killing people solves nothing. These atrocities occur due to misunderstandings and failure to discuss matters in a calm and rational manner. Just imagine if people would talk things out instead of lashing out. But for the limited time we all have on planet earth may we all live each day with love in our hearts, be productive, and help our fellow person.
Thank you so much for this! So insightful and honest. I was in a relationship with an immature boy man for many years. When I think back, it actually makes me sick. Everything you say in this, is totally and sadly, true! What was I thinking? What if you have a partner who is emotionally immature and challenged :. I am left with no choice now. What do i do. Please help someone. I am in the same situation although, they might be two different people I believe we might be going through the same thing.
The hardest part for you will be to accept this within your heart and let him go. Not because you want to leave them but because they will realize at the end of the day that they need to change mentally. My girlfriend of 6 years does not have any control over her emotions. She tries so hard to be strong minded and to supress them but she always gives in. I support her and listen to her and I love her but she does have her moments where she is crazy in love with me or very happy and out of nowhere she finds a defect in me which leads her to break up.
She has broken up with me many times in the past. She wants to be independent and learn how to do things her way but has broken up with me again. I want to help her but I think the best thing to do is to do absolutely nothing.
I do not know if I am doing the correct thing or if i am making amistake but in order for her to mentally grow and mature I think she needs to find herself and see the greatness within her and how she can accomplish many things with me not around. The independence should bring the best within her because she does not feel like she can do things alone.
I read many of these and I am dumbfounded as to how so many mirror my relationship. I am 33 years old and my bf is We have been together 2 years and it just keeps getting worse. He was so adamant. I have even talked to exes and asked their opinions and they all thought I was joking.
HaS anyone gone through similar to give me advice? An adult boy throwing a tantruM. A narcist has called me narcist while I am on the other end of empathy spectrum. And an abusive man talked to me about boundaries just when I knew it was about time I restricted his access into my affairs. Weird or gaslight was what I felt.