Each week, I get letters by email, on my website, by Twitter and on Facebook from women who are sending money to Africa and Afghanistan to help service members come home. This is a scam!! These are not men who are in the United States military. They are scam artists preying on desperate women. I met a sergeant in the Army on Facebook from the Zoosk dating site. We have been texting since May. His name is Sgt.
I really love your blog as well. Have you come across any support groups for military girlfriends? Would love to join one. I love your site.
These are all really good points. They are hard, there is not a lot of money, and you have to be really strong. So I think the more people know, the smoother they can transition!
Jul 04, Im a former active duty Marine and i cant seem to find a decent respectable girl to go out with. I think it might be my tattoo's, Ive got a sleeve on my right arm of the grim reaper holding a sniper rifle and dropping skulls into a lake of fire around my wrist (I was a sniper in the marine corps). the other tats are usually hidden unless im wearin a sleveless shirt so i dont .
I hope military spouse bloggers can help make life a little easier for the next generation of military spouses. These are all so true! It is a challenging life, with a lot of time apart and not a lot of money.
I wish I could help make it easier for all mil spouses! I really admire your blog and book, JD, and I hope to have a similar impact on our military community! Hi there!
The biggest strain is by deployments or long separations, whatever they might be from. I have noticed that people who have been married for awhile and then gotten into military, or if someone has been established in the military for awhile and then gotten married, their relationships tend to be better than someone who gets married right before or right out of basic training or similar. Met on a dating site. Lots of military members do use dating sites to meet people in their community. But you should know that bad guys use dating . Another active duty member of the Armed Forces, a Dependency Application, NAVMC Form , is not required when a Marine is married to another active duty member of the Armed Forces and no other.
I need some advice! I was kinda dating this guy in the military. We met right before he had to go on another continent for 6 months. He was supposed to come back next month. We were talking almost everyday since he left, we were also skyping and all those things. We were both really excited to finally be together. I tried to reach out to him without any luck. Now he even deactivated his Facebook account.
Sign up to receive my latest and greatest articles! I promise to never abuse your inbox or sell your info. That's just rude. Share Tweet Pin 84 shares. Now, you have your Marine. He is just like any other guy. Simple as that. He may have a regular day job with the occasional overnight duty or he may work shifts. If he is in a deployable unit, then there is a chance that he will deploy. However, it is not like the movies.
These guys normally know months in advance that they will deploy. There are some extremely good guys in the Corps, but there are also extremely good guys who are not in the military at all, just like there are douchebags everywhere.
I know there are women out there who want to date a guy in the military. The tearful partings, extended separations, passionate returns. The drama of life multiplied by a hundred. He is not going to swoop in, in uniform no less, and save you from your dreary life! Yeah, there are definite perks to being a military spouse.
Notice I said spouse.
Back to the perks. A lot of us do try though. I always worked until we moved here. We get to live in a ton of awesome and not so awesome places. I live on a subtropical island in the Pacific. That would be awesome. We came from small town, middle of nowhere Missouri, which most would call not so awesome. We have free healthcare which means we have babies for free.
I can not tell you how many people have asked me that.
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Deployments suck. They can last anywhere from a few months to over a year. Sure, the homecoming is nice, but I bet any wife you ask would rather have her husband home than to be worrying about what could happen. Deployments are also not a get out of jail free card when it comes to cheating. Not all of us cheat. Life is not like Army Wives.
Think about this. Your husband gets orders for, lets say Okinawa. You, your toddler, and husband move across the ocean. You are there a month, trying to find your way around while driving on the wrong side of the road. Oh my gosh! You are going to mainland Japan for training for a month!
Whatever shall you do? Your household goods are scheduled to arrive while he is gone. Does this sound like fun yet? You know no one. You have no friends. You are stuck at home with a toddler all day with no one to help you.
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Good thing this time was only training. Dating can lead to marriage. Is there a term for that?
Those women who hang around just to snag a military guy? If you meet a guy you like that happens to be in the military, then fine. Date away. Just be prepared for all the life brings. It comes easy for some women while it breaks others. Kara is just a typical woman, navigating life around 2 kids and all the craziness of a military life. Thank you so much for posting this. This is awesome. They are called tag chasers :p and I am here because I met a marine who I really liked lol, thank you for this though, a lot to think about!
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Great read! Idaliz recently posted 20 Questions! I have always heard that girls that exclusively go for military guys are called barracks bunnies lol. I absolutely love this!
Jun 14, I never wanted another girl even though I could have had one. I fell in love with my High School sweetheart at She was I got drafted in (I was 19, she was 17) and for some insane reason, I joined the USMC. I was sent to USMC boot camp. Dec 27, So, how to date a Marine. Are these people wanting to know how to initially get the Marine or do they already have the Marine and don't know what to do with him jankossencontemporary.com, if you want to meet and then date a Marine, let me tell you how. As a former active-duty female Marine, I've got to tell you, I was appalled when I first saw this post. Jul 10, i am 23 and i am active duty army. my girlfriend is 17 to be 18 in march, can the military pass any type of punishment on me for this. she 5/5(K).
From the start I knew it was not going to be rainbows and butterflies, that it would take tons of honesty, trust and commitment to just DATE him. You mentioned that once you were married and went where your husband was stationed, you could no longer work. So lets say if someone was determined to become a doctor, lawyer, engineer, etc.
Hope to hear back from you soon! A girl I knew growing up had a father who was a higher up in the Navy. Her mom almost always worked as a nurse. We met on a online dating site, Sad I know but true. I am truly proud of him for what he does but he is so much more than just the uniform he puts on to do his job. I dated a Marine for 6 months, then I married him.
The best perks were dating my best friend, hot sex and 4 kids. Faith, love, prayer, patience and good communication.
Be aware of PTSD and other pitfalls of military service, not as a strike against them, rather as a help mate and supporter since their jobs put them in stressful situations.
Know signs and symptoms of TBI. Few Marines request help at the first sign of trouble because they are trained to be bad as warriors. Most of all, love your Marine or WM. I took a look at it, because I was hoping that there would be more to it than I originally thought.
Anyhow, I just wanted to point out that the Marine Corps will always come first. Not your schedule, priorities, and certainly not your feelings. The Marine Corps does not offer any sort of benefit for girlfriends or boyfriends. Just spouses. If you live off base together when dating, there will be no extra pay to support that.
You get the benefit of being part of what is hopefully a large support system for that Marine. My boyfriend at the time, now husband, was not in the Corps when I served and it was nice to have someone to lean on that was outside of the Marine Corps world.
Although, it was sometimes difficult because he had to come to terms with the fact that my first commitment always had to be the Marine Corps. Nothing quite as annoying as that. This was funny! Tag Chasers are in it for the travel and the bennies, not for love. And without love, military relationships cannot last because this life is too damn hard.
They are not in it for the long haul. Yes this is my 1st time date a marine corp guy. So yes I would like some advice. He is all i want. I am Alabama and he is in Japan. Sorry to intrude on this discussion.
In one way this is funny but on the serious side, it is rightly needed. Like Kara, my wife is from a middle of no where are south of her home town. Unlike other Marines, I had served in another branch of the Armed Forces and my father had served in two branches himself, so I was a military brat before I ever put on a military uniform.
I had been in a lot of other uniforms before I ever joined the military. Girlfriend boyfriend are NOT any class of military identifiable military associates. A military spouse does. They give a spouse and ID card that lets him or her on a base for access to medical care and a chance to shop at the military exchanges and commissary retail and grocery stores. You had better be in love with with your military person because Uncle Sweetheart is going to test you almost each and every day.
Worst case I can think of was a standard 4 month deployment of an aviation detachment Air Wing section that went on a Med Cruise. Spouses were gone for 4 months, They got back in on a Friday - were recalled back to their Squadron on Sunday and flew out Monday for an unknown deployment to the other side of the globe for what would turn out to be for 12 months!
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Worst case non living arrangement was a Marine with a professional teachers wife. Marine was assigned a 13 month unaccompanied tour on Okinawa, This tour would mean he would not deploy leave from Okinawa for this 13 month time frame as he would be assigned to one of the bases.
His command found out and sent him on the next deployment to an FMF unit. Wishing to go overseas with your spouse? He or she in the Marines will, in all probability, be very lucky to get one accompanied overseas tour in a career of 20 years. The longest my father was at any base non-Marine was 6 years.
The longest I was at any command was 3 years.