FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. Hey guys just curious if a woman who is 31 years old was into a guy who is 26 me , would the age gap be too large for it to be considered normal. It's a five year gap, and to me that just seems too much for what is "normal" It would be okay if the man was 26 and she was 21 but the other way around feels too milfy, or cougarish. But what if everything about the other person you liked, you liked their personality, you found them attractive, etc Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me? Yeah, it's fine. What says more about you is the fact that you would ask this question.
He says I will be sacrificing too much if I married him because he's not sure he can give me the time as he's just starting a new job which involves travelling and exams. As well as his family being against me. I am gutted. I waited for love and it was all for nothing. My advice don't WAIT!!!
I think you shouljust take time to yourself for a couple of Days in think things out. It seems you are worry about all your friends have got married and had kids. In you seem like your getting left behind are this is what is worrying you. You don't want to just jump for someone for you fear time isn't on your side, it would not be right for you are him.
Apr 21, 24 year old guy dating 30 year old woman; Thread: im 25 and would looove me a cougar Id go older then 30 for sure I was 23 when I had best relationship in my life with 35 years old woman.I don't regret at all. Reply With Quote. , AM # According to the rule, for example, a year-old should be with a partner who is at least 22, while a year-old's dating partner must be at least 32 to not attract (presumed) social sanction. Jun 14, Age doesnt matter in a relationship. The only way it is weird is when an 80 year old marrys a 20 year old. If you have fun with each other then whats the point of worrying. You shoudl be happy that you both have fun with each other. My parents are different ages, my mom is 40 and my dad just turned 53, so age doesnt matter to me.
You did not say one time if you Love him,are if he Loves you. I'm thinking this needs too Happen before kids. If i were you i would really think this out, for it seems you have already got the picture draw before it happens.
But your only talking 4 months, talk too him and fine things out about him. His likes and dislikes, is he even interested and getting Marrie what does he think about kids. You don't half too tell him this is what your looking for, that way if his answer's do not go your way.
You no where you both stanand you can stay with him are go looking for another that is ready to commit. Good Luck. You'll even be able to attract guys you might feel is out of your league. I suggest going on a bunch of dates before choosing one guy to be your boyfriend.
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Answer Save. This Site Might Help You. RE: A 30 year old woman dating a 24 year old man? How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer. Larry Lv 5. But please make sure she never sees this question or knows about your concerns because it would be really hurtful and if I were her it would be amble reason to not date you or to dump you if I was.
It would be okay if the man was 26 and she was 21 but the other way around feels too milfy, or cougarish. Also, I'd just like to request that you and society as a whole work super-hard to unpack yourselves of this notion. If you could see your way clear.
Because, "An age and power differential is okay as long as it's the man in power"? Nekker at PM on June 3, [ 41 favorites ]. A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? As far as your references to "milfy" or "cougarish", ummmmmmm, I'm I'm not a mom or even vaguely matronly. I'm not elderly.
You and I most likely have virtually identical life experiences and overall approaches to the world. We like the same bands, watch the same TV shows and movies, and are nostalgic about the same Saturday morning cartoons.
The age difference is perfectly acceptable, and i know plenty of successful couples with that type of age gap. You, on the other hand, sound immature and judgmental about both gender relations and age, and so it probably won't work out, unless your prospective girlfriend is willing to be considered milfy or a cougar, but she probably won't.
A five year age difference is of no consequence if the two people involved are at the same stage of maturity. This does not seem to be the case here.
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She needs to be dating someone more in her maturity bracket. You need to mature some more. I would never ever date a woman and not be proud of her, and hide her from my friends, it wouldnt be fair. I haven't even asked her out yet but it seems like she wants me to. If I was in a relationship with her then I'd most certainly be happy with what she was posted by curious-mind at PM on June 3, [ 1 favorite ].
Um, yes, it's fine. My 31 year old girlfriend says no, it is not ok. Like most things, it's okay with some people and not okay with others. If you want to date this woman, pursue that goal. The reason I asked this question about me being "okay" with dating an older woman, was reading a okcupid research article saying how most men compete for younger women, and there were guys in the comment section saying things like "Yeah if you can't get a younger woman its because you got priced out and you suck" I tried to not let it bother me but it did.
That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men.
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So far so good. He's not concerned about the difference at all. If you two really gel as a couple then people won't see a 5 year difference in your ages. Yeah, I think you're probably too immature for this relationship, dude.
Okay wait, you are making life decisions based on the internets comments section of a dating site article? Oh honey. Cut this shit out. Anyway, in my early-mid 30s I dated a guy very seriously for several years who was about four years younger. The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. Here's where it could potentially become an issue - if she wants to have children, she is facing a much steeper timeline than you are right now in life.
Where two twentysomethings can wait and see where things go, maybe get married, maybe think about kids when it feels right - a couple in their 30's do have to face the reality that female fertility starts declining after So if you don't think you want kids in the next 10 years, and she does - the relationship can't work in the long run. It sounds from your question and followups that you're focusing on a lot of superficial externals about how it might affect you rather than the heart of the matter - what is she looking for in you?
Gwyneth Paltrow is five years older than Chris Martin. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I know if I were in her year-old shoes I would want to know if I was seeing someone who used the word "cougar" seriously in any non-feline context, let alone applied to how others might view our relationship, has no problem with a double standard, i. If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her.
She might chose to make this a non-issue for you.
Jan 07, Because those cologne-wearing, Dolce-upgraded, French-press-drinking, something hunks are a whole different animal. Here's everything you need to know about dating a year-old in your 20s: jankossencontemporary.com: Elite Daily Staff. Oct 09, But perhaps the motliest part of this crowd is the ever-growing group of year-old single guys. If you want a case study in humanity, year-old single guys have pretty much all the bases covered. Let's examine some of the common types: 1) The Total Package. The Total Package is smart-he went to a top college. The Total Package is an. I am 25, and for the last 2 years I have exclusively dated men over the age of My last boyfriend was Dating older men is awesome and I think the feeling is mutual. I love the thought that my age is a factor in his attraction to me-in some (probably fucked up way) it made me feel really good to know how good he felt dating someone so.
Re your question: A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? I think it's just fine if a 26 year old man is dating a 31 year old woman. But, if we're talking about a 26 year old guyI'm not so sure. Just noticed that 15 comments have been posted since I started writing.
I'm betting that I'm not the only one who is giving you grief about this question. Who do you want to date? Her or other men?
Nov 10, A 30 year old woman dating a 24 year old man? I am 30 yrs old dating a 24 yr old. All of my friends are married and having children.I am wondering if I am wasting my time. Does a 24 yr old man think of kids and marriage?Weve only been dating 4 months and Im not ready for that w/ him anyway,but down the road will be.I don't want to waste my. I am 44 year old indian lady married to a man 52 year old from last 25 years we dont have childrens I'm a cancer woman and im dating a Aquarius man he's in a relationship in h I'm a 35 year old woman falling in love with a 23 year old guy. Jan 20, If it makes them both happy and they can deal with the effects of the age gap, I'd say "more power to them." If not, not so much. As for me- I'm I find that, while I'm sexually attracted to women in that age group (hell, they're in their prime.
It's a fine age gap for anyone. Best of luck - you're gonna need it.
A 30 year old woman dating a 24 year old man?
I tried to not let it bother me but it did. OK, I'm here to tell you: lots of things get "looked upon as failings. You know the saying, "Haters gonna hate"? There you go.
You, sincere internet stranger who is making a valiant effort to figure this out, are not a statistic. You may plug into some venn diagrams every once in a while, but the value judgements you make for your own time in life need not be unduly influenced by lying numbers or hype and spin or anything other than your own notion of where the ship you and only you are steering is headed. It is weird in the sense that it's not typical and it is something some people might look down on you for.
Does that make it bad or a bad idea? I don't think so, but that's your decision to make. What people might think of you as a couple is just one of many factors that go into deciding whether to pursue a specific relationship.
It's not wrong to consider it, either, but talking about it in this particular way reinforces a lot of gross sexist norms so I suggest not bringing it up like this around other people or around this woman.
Why do you care what's "normal"?
Why do you care what other people think about your prospective relationship, or what they might think about you on the basis of who you date? While it's natural to wonder about the various consequences of a difference in age, I think your would-be sweetheart might be a bit taken aback to learn that you had to ask the Internet whether dating her would be "OK.
Then of course there's the unnecessary stereotype that her being over 30 for five minutes means she is now turning at least some of her attention to baby-planning. They haven't even gone on a date.
I don't think kids need to be a factor in the dating process quite yet. I'm 26 years old and I've dated a number of women in their late 30s in the last few years. It's never been any kind of issue. On the other hand, at the tender age of 26 I think of myself as a grown man and I wouldn't lower myself to taking advice from a bunch of bros in the comment section of a dating website so maybe our experiences are very different.
For what it's worth - not much, by the way - some women my own age have told me that the fact that I was dating a 40 year old raised their opinion if me. But you should not be using the identity of the person you date as a status symbol because it's repulsive.
Someone 5 years older than you is not old enough to be your mother, so "MILF" seems quite a bit off. My sister-in-law and my ex-sister-in-law are both five or six years older than my brother, and I don't think either relationship has had, or had, any issues relating to their age difference.
I don't know what to say about your apparent internalized belief that men "should be" older than their female partners or they'll lose status, except a it's certainly a widespread cultural meme in lots of places, and b in my experience, cultural memes like that are usually obstacles to creating relationships that work for you, not for random TV gossip shows or shock jocks or whoever. Since you are asking, and given the words you chose, she is too old for you.
Older women tend to respect themselves more and have higher standards. In that sense dating an older woman reflects well on you. Older women, because of their confidence and experience, also make better lovers. I would really encourage you to disabuse yourself of the subconscious misogyny you've indicated in your post and follow-ups so that you can be worthy of her interest.
Plutarch, in his biography of Marc Antony, remarks that Cleopatra met Antony "at the very time when women have the most brilliant beauty. Notwithstanding, what are YOU comfortable with? And the line about not able to attract a younger woman.
Hollywood or something? You fall in love with whom you fall in love with. When I was 34 I was dating a 27 year old.
Jun 03, I have been described as an "old soul", so it's not surprising I get along well with older women. As a year old, I dated a year old. As a year old, I dated a year old. As a year old, I dated a year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers. Life is too. fucking. short.
We had a lot of fun in the time we were together. Our work was similar, we liked the same movies, the same books, we had the same political views, our musical tastes overlapped. Eventually he was transferred to another city and that was that, but we had a terrific time.
No one, including the two of us, gave any thought to the age difference, because it was never evident. I am eight years older than my husband, and our respective ages have never been an issue between us. Except when he makes fun of 80s music.
People have already given your grief for describing yourself as a 26 year old boy and caring about the opinion of an anonymous bunch of dudes on OKCupid, so I'll spare you on that front. My question is regardless of your concerns, how is anyone even going to know you are dating a 31 year old unless you tell them?
Unless said women looks substantially older than 31 or you look substantially younger than 26, your age difference is unlikely to be identifiable by the general public that's making the rather generous assumption that anyone else is going to care. I didn't marry any of them or anyone else for that matter but they - well all but one - were great relationships, the shortest of which lasted almost 2 years and the longest almost 8 years.
I don't recall my age, or our age difference, being a factor. I primarily dated men younger than myself because those were the men that I happened to meet. I went to grad school at 31 and most of my classmates were years younger than I was. When I got out and got my first internship, same deal. I had more in common with them then men my own age who were already well-established in their careers, etc.
Most of the time we found out each others ages after we started dating and it just wasn't an issue for either of us. I'm 29 and my girlfriend is It's great! There are lots of advantages to dating a grownup. I wouldn't trade her for a year-old for anything, especially when I remember what I was like at Also, did you read that OkCupid article, or just the comments? Because the article, if I'm thinking of the same one you are, was about how awesome women in their 30s are, and how dumb it is that guys don't tend to date older women.
And they had data to back up something women being awesome! Honey, five years is an age gap when you are a child. Five years doesn't rate as an age gap when you are an adult. I skipped to the end. This must worry you for some reason, but it shouldn't. I remember a ton of lady-persons who were 31 at my 26 and I didn't give a rat's patoot about our respective ages.
Be glad you've found someone you care about and who feels the same. I'm a 30 year old woman.
I'd have no problem dating a 25 year old. As the bard said, love the one you're with. If she's OK with you, you should be too. When I was in my early 30's, I had a short relationship with a woman in her early 20's. We weren't a good match and one of the things that stuck out to me was the difference in maturity. If you're thoughtful and mature and your are compatible, great, have a good time.
You haven't even asked her out. Cart before the horse. I hope you've worked through your previous issues. I think you need a lot more confidence and grounding, but that's just me. I'm 16 years older than my husband, we have been together for 7 years both dating and married. He chased me. I'm not a MILF or a Cougar and spent most of the early years of the relationship worrying about the age difference, it has never bothered him.
You like who you like, ask her out and if she says yes I hope you both have fun. If it becomes serious you won't care about the age difference, and if it's only a bit of fun for both of you, you might learn something about yourself and women. Forget about what people on OKCupid say, what people say online to make themselves look "cooler" rarely has any actually relationship to what they'd do if they had the chance in real life.
Also face early thirties deosn't look that much different to late 20's its not like she's got grey hair and a walking stick, no one is going to look twice. Ask her out. Are you sure that they've failed at competing?
I suspect that men who date older women have realized that the only way to win at "my girlfriend is younger than yours" is not to play. Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women? Would it really make you feel better about yourself? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women.
If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved. Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now. This is only an issue if it's made into an issue. Live your life, man.
I was 27, he was A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was