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My memorial to Krista consisted of a dozen photographs that adorned various rooms of my house. Some photographs were large, others were small. Some photos were just of her, while others were of the two of us. Since we spent all our time in the kitchen or living room, I removed the photos of Krista in those rooms. The next time Julianna visited, I could immediately tell a difference in her demeanor. She seemed more relaxed, and stayed longer than her previous visits.
As our relationship became more serious, the rest of the photographs came down one by one. Putting them away was like saying goodbye to Krista. As our love for each other grew, it became easier to take down the pictures. It took two months, but eventually, Julie could go anywhere in my house without seeing Krista looking back at her. The shrine, whatever form it takes, will gnaw at you until it drives you crazy.
Memories always win.
The answer is simple: Widowers will eagerly start a new chapter when they find a woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with. And the best part? Every one of them will tell you that they knew it within weeks or months.
When a widower meets a woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, he will do-not say-whatever it takes to make that woman the love of his life. He will take down the photos of the late wife, scatter her ashes, stop posting on social media about her, sell their home, introduce the new woman to family and friends, and figure out the best way to blend families.
Widowers will try hard to make things work if they want a lifelong relationship with you. About a month after Krista and I started dating, I knew I could happily spend the rest of my life with her. I had never felt that way about anyone else before, and part of me wondered if this feeling was real or if it would fade as our relationship matured. It never did. In fact, the more time I spent with Krista, the more I could see us getting married, having children, and growing old together.
And though I figured there would hardships and the normal ups and downs that everyone experiences, I wanted to do it with Krista by my side. I never felt that way with Jennifer. At the time, I thought it was because I was recently widowed and grieving. Even though our first date was a disaster, I sensed there was something special about her.
Those feelings were strong enough for me to ask for a second chance. After our next date, I knew Julianna was someone I could marry, start a family with, and spend the rest of my life with. In fact, the love I had for Julianna was the same love I felt toward Krista.
Yes, you read that right. My feelings for Krista and Julianna were one and the same. I was still an emotional mess and wondered if my feelings for Julianna were temporary and would fade once the honeymoon phase of our relationship wore off.
Besides, we started dating just as my relationship with Jennifer was ending. There was no logical reason why I could suddenly open my heart to someone else.
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However, the more time I spent with Julianna, the stronger my feelings about her became. Within a month, I knew I wanted to marry her. It took Julianna a bit longer to feel the same way. There was just something wonderful about her that reinforced itself whenever I spent time with her.
Because of this, I was determined to show her that I was ready to start a new chapter of my life, so I started making changes.
Nine months after our disastrous first date, we exchanged vows and became husband and wife. Some of you are probably thinking that my story is unique.
Instead, it grows stronger and stronger as the relationship becomes more serious. That alone should be all the motivation the widower needs to move forward. Sex and Intimacy with Widowers. Dating and Marriage: One Regret. Widowers: They're Still Men.
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It never happened. Then Julianna came along, and everything changed. I am so sorry you are hurting and have found yourself in this difficult situation. The bottom line is that you deserve a mutual, loving relationship with a man who you can have that with in the present moment. You deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling relationship with someone.
When a man - widower or not - is ready to be with you, it is apparent. To me, it does not sound like he has finished a primary grieving process. Either way, if I were in your situation, I would tell the man how I feel about him and that I would love nothing more than to be with him - but in a full, normal, healthy, mutually-loving, giving relationship and that I will need to give myself a chance to have that elsewhere until he is ready to give that to me.
If it is meant to be, it will be - eventually. Good luck and give yourself the high regard that it sounds like you really know you deserve. I meant that she is so perfect for me that had this been many years ago she would have been the one I married. That she is perfect for me right now. That she has captured my heart.
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But we are taking things very slow so we can build on this and have that wonderful relationship we both desire. I just wanted to clarify that comment because it doesnt sound right as originally posted.
This is lovely to read I have been dating a widower for a year now, we met 2 yrs after his wife passed away. I am divorced in very good terms for 3 yrs now, and we met each other in a dating website in Sometimes I have some insecurities, but I had some insecurities in past relationships too, so I guess this is quite normal.
I developed a strange feeling towards his late wife I like her, and I feel we would have been good friends. I got to the point I even had dreams of her being alive, and being so happy about it! Chatting with her when we have never actually met each other. Regarding my insecurities, I used to wonder if I am a reminder of his loss and he is with me because I am the closest person around who reminds him the relationship they had.
In time, I realized that this is nonsense not only because our relationship is different, but also because I am a completely different person and so is my boyfriend since Mary late wife passed away. Anyway, I am writing this because no relationship is a walk in the park and easy, but I think it is not supposed to be so difficult and full of pain.
He was married to a great woman but she passed away. Our past lives are not an option anymore, so we had no other option but accept reality and move forward. When we met we were bothing going through a divorce. Both our spouses had an affair. A short time later we found out his soon to be ex had terminal cancer.
I was by his side whenever he needed me. It was one of the hardest things either of us had ever dealt with. Uncharted waters. As tough as it is to deal with the rollercoaster ride I love him and feel our relationship is worth the work. Thank you everyone that has shared their experiences.
It makes me feel there is hope. I met my widower on a dating site. He has been widowed for 8 years. He says and does all the right things. But sometimes I feel a disconnect. I have met his family and his children.
He has expressed he wants to marry me one day. He is making little changes around his home. He even bought me a toothbrush and bath towels for when I spend the night.
We have not had sex, but we cuddle. Am I reading to must into this because of the disconnect. This is new territory for me. This is new to me. His wife died of cancer 8 years ago. All like me. He has talked about marriage and spending the rest of his life with me. He is very accommodating. He takes my advice in his personal affairs. He has made room for me in his home. We have not had sex. All is well but every now and then he is very distant.
Should I ask him about this or go with the flow. As I stated this is new to me. As a widower it takes a little time to feel confident about having sex for the first time, it was for me but the special lady of mine took me by the hand and gave me the opportunity to get back in life.
I asked her what she was doing and she replied that she was building a great man. I feel much better. The pictures will slowly come off of the walls and the clothes will go to the Goodwill. His kids love me, my son loves him and his kids. Any thoughts? I think this is great! Keep having fun and enjoying each other. Just let it happen. So what if it takes a long time? Just enjoy every day.
I am a widow of 19 years and dating a gentleman widowed 7 years. There are times we do well and other time I am in limbo as to what to do or where I stand. I am old enough to not act foolish, but I really like this guy. I am willing to let time take its course, but there are times i get impatient. Such confusion. You sound exactly how I feel. I appreciate the good times and hold on tight during the tough ones. Giving him space to work through his feelings is probably the hardest thing.
But he always comes back so I just hold onto that.
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I have really enjoyed reading these tips and comments. I have a few questions myself. I have been dating a widower for almost 2 years now. He us 68 and I am He was married to her for about 13 years. Yet he stayed with her. She has 2 children who are grown and have children of their own. He is close to them and their children. They call him grandpa, etc. However he keeps wanting me to go with him to visit them and I want nothing to do with it. I keep thinking it will cure itself.
In some ways I think I am being small but then in other ways I feel that our lives together is going to be short as it is and I dont want to be spending it with her children. I would really appreciate any feedback. I am at a loss! I have close friends I have known for 23 yrs. Since meeting them there has always been thisconnection between him and I. Nothing ever happened as we were both married. My girlfriend his wife was diagnosed, battled cancer for 2 yrs and passed away August For 3 months after her passed he pursued me, wanting to date.
We talked about this repeatedly and he kept assuring me he felt ready and that knowing my past history my ex cheated on me would never hurt me. We dated for 7months, there was quilt as he felt like he was cheating on his LW and that he was happy and I felt like I was betraying my friend.
We talked about it but felt that our relationship felt right! He was told by a friend of his LW that she often spoke of me with her friends and even told one of them that she thought him and I would get together. We felt it was meant to be. After 7months on July 25, due to his job he saw a Psychologist.
I told him it was is grief has the 1 yr anniversary of his LW passing was in a few months. During this time on a couple of occasions his angry bubbled over and he snapped at me, immediately apolozing and feeling horrible.
He broke up with me saying he needs time and space. Of course we are both devastated as we were talking about a future together with me and my 2 boys and buying a house and vacationsetc. I have been trying to give him the space and time that he asked for but it is extremely hard. He has been texting me occasionally and calling me.
This has absolutely destroyed me! It has been 2 months and I have my good days but most are bad, I am off work on stress leave and seeing a counsellor. I feel him distant and holding back his feelings and having to do this to help him get through this. A week ago we spoke on the phone for an hour it was raw, open and honest. He said he has a hole in his heart that somedays he feels it would just be easier to jump in front of a bus, that he thinks of me the minute he wakes up, all day long and when he goes to bed.
He admitted that he is running away. He needs time to find himself and learn who he is. I asked him to please not run away from me I understand that need to find himself but I could bare not having him in my life.
I started dating a widower around October and it had been over two years since his wife passed away. We met online, he pursued me like crazy.
He has 3 kids, but none with the late wife. It was long distance, but we met every month and spoke on the phone, FaceTimed, texted, email everyday. He spoke of marrying me one day. He came to my hometown to meet my family. I was scheduled to meet his family not including his daughters and he did not meet my son the week of Christmas One week before I was scheduled to fly into town, he canceled my visit, told me he was depressed because of the holidays.
He brought up his late wife and her daughter saying how much he misses them both.
He is still close to her daughter and her family. I was patient with him and understood he was still grieving. He talked about his late wife every day in our general conversation and even had picture of them saved on his phone as his screen saver so I had to see this every time he opened his phone. I never said anything to him about it.
I gave him that. I didnt speak to him or call him for two weeks to give him time to collect his thoughts. He was also seeing a therapist. Then on New Years DayI called to checked on him and found out he blocked my number. However, he did not block me from contacting him on social media or WhatsAPP. This really hurt my feelings because I did absolutely nothing to him for him to go that far to remove me from his life.
We finally talked and he said it was only until he got his thoughts together and didnt want to be bothered with anyone. Although he told me time and time again he has not loved anyone since his wife died, he told me I made his heart happy again.
We made several plans to travel together, sell our homes and buy a home together in a totally different state, travel the world together in retirement.
This hurts too bad! I hope you realize that he did this as a result of HIS issues. This has absolutely nothing to do with you or anything you did. Listen to what he has to say. Please try not to cry anymore. He is out there.
Thank you for this blog Jackie and thank you this post Lynette. I also was dating a widower for 6 months and I tell you if ever I thought there was a one, it was him until he shattered us 2 weeks ago but just ending it with meI searched my heart and soul for the past 2 weeks going over what I could have done wrongwe were seriously the most loving couple I had ever seen or known.
We had plans of getting married one day and we were truly happy I thought. Yes we had hit some bumps along the way in the difficult months. I was patient and loving and very kind. I was devastated and hit very hard with the news we were over.
He started making decisions for us by himself though which kind of made me unsure if us since those decisions affected our relationship and where we were headed. So we seemed to go downhill from there but I absolutely admired and loved him with all my heart. But he crushed us when he said we are done.
When he broke up with me he had all my stuff hidden in a corner of my house and he was waiting for me when I got home at midnight to break the news. When I asked him, when will I get my stuff, he pointed to the place where he had my stuff in trash bags and said I already packed it all up for you. Now I feel like he just quickly replaced me with someone else and he started looking while we were in the relationship. Wait a minute. Are you sure he has someone else? I have a few thoughts. All of these issues are HIS issues and have nothing to do with you.
He is very very confused and it sounds like he desperately felt like he needed space, hence packing up your stuff which is really mean, by the way. This is not about me, but about HIM. And, somewhere out there, is a man who wants to receive all the love i have to give. He sounds really really confused and needs therapy.
And, if he is with someone else, those same issues will creep up with her. I be been seeing a wonderful man for a year who was widowed just over two years ago. He had been married over 30 years. I am separated after 26 years of marriage. We get on so well, he never says anything comparing me to his late wife, however he still wears both their wedding rings and does have pictures of her in his house one of his daughters purposefully put a new one up the week after I met her. It was a photo of her mum on her wedding day.
He has even accused me of not loving him on the evening of the day he had booked days off for a joint holiday and we had just been away on a fabulous weekend I have never said anything like this to him. He is wonderful and I tell him all the time how much I love him. But these out bursts really hurt. I end up calling him and talking to him about how he actually feels.
He says he is really scared of being hurt again he then calls and texts to see if we are ok. I have been dating a widower for over 2 months now.
His wife passed away 10 years ago and he has 2 grown children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I am 48 and he is We share many of the same interests in sports teams, travel, fitness, etc. We connected on a deeper level on a group trip to Hawaii a few months back and we have been exclusively dating since then.
There are no pictures of his wife in his house. He told me about 6 weeks ago that during the marriage, his wife left him for another man and had a 5 year relationship with him.
She felt lonely because he was a cop and he worked 4pmam. She took the kids and moved in with her parents. During this time he had other relationships as he was devastated but they never divorced. She eventually ended her affair, took the kids and moved back in with him. He stayed with her until she passed away from cancer. His insecurity manifests itself in anger and almost rage against me as our relationship has progressed or regressed.
On the days I can work from home, he asks me to work from his house which I do. When we go out, he thinks everyone is trying to pick me up. We have a large group of mutual friends. He always tells me he loves me and wants to be with me forever and then after a few drinks, he says these hurtful things but he carries this over to the next day. We have all of these trips and concerts planned and paid for and now he wants to just throw our relationship away. This reply is for Donna. He pursued me for two years before I agreed to go out with him.
His late wife has been gone for 7 years. We were both very good to each other for the duration of this relationship. He often told me that I was the most affectionate and passionate woman including his late wife that he had ever been with. We enjoyed a lot of fun activities together and he often told me that he had fallen in love with me.
He always appeared to be a calm, patient person, but I saw a whole other side to him a month ago. Much to my surprise, he went ballistic over a very minor incident.
Since I am a good dancer, I have performed a group routine with my dance group. Also, a family member was flying in to visit him on the afternoon of the performance, so he declined to perform. On the evening of the performance, I posted a group picture and an individual picture of my dance partner and me.
The sh-t hit the fan and I received four days of sarcastic, very critical texts from my boyfriend. He had known that I was going to dance the routine and he knew who my dance partner was going to be a full week before the performance and never acted upset about it. Now he was ranting and totally out of control, but he would only text me.
He refused to talk with me via phone, or in person. I removed the pics and asked via text what else I needed to do to make this right for him.
I did not apologize for participating in the performance, but I apologized six times for it upsetting him. I texted that I loved and cared about him five times. I tried to rationalize that we had shared a wonderful 16 months together and this was just one incident. Nothing worked. Was this the same man who told me how much he loved me the morning of the performance?
It was if I were dealing with a completely different person now. After 7 days of this nonsense, I had to be honest with myself. A man who truly loved me and cared about preserving our relationship would not be treating me like this. He was punishing me. Emotional abandonment is emotional abuse plain and simple.
For all of the energy, time, money and love I had lavished on this widower, I did not deserve this kind of poor treatment.
As difficult as it was for me, I decided that I had to end the relationship. If I allowed him to continue to treat me like this until he was good and ready to reconcile, it would set a precedent for future conflicts. We had a cruise paid for and another trip planned. All got cancelled. Donna, you deserve to be treated with love and respect. Trust me, you are never going to get that from your passive-aggressive widower boyfriend. Get out now before he strips you of your dignity.
Last year, my wife Jo passed away suddenly and my whole world turned upside down. We started going out in and married in She introduced me to a different world I knew nothing about - Koru Club travel etc.
We were in our late thirties so it seemed to make more sense to spend time and money on spending time and doing things with family especially the nephews and nieces. By default I think we both felt there were enough children in the world and our families and we could make a difference by supporting and loving them. They have been my strongest support throughout this whole ordeal. All I miss are the hugs and cheek to cheek to feel the warmth.
I have been dating a widower of three years when we met 11 months ago.
He had been married for 40 years after marrying his childhood sweetheart at He is very affectionate privately but lacks any verbal affection at all. He is very attentive and takes me to beautiful places around town. Any Verbal affection I give is never reciprocated. We Tell each other we feel very fulfilled in the bedroom and says he feels the chemistry.
Four weeks ago it was like a bomb shell when I asked him if he felt truly ready to move on when we met and whether he was happy with our relationship. He has never said he loves me and never talks of his feelings. He asked me then to stay with him and be patient. There has also been trouble with his grown-up daughter with her own family accepting me who is not happy to see her dad moving on.
She is quite cold to me and hardly talks to me on family occasions. So the issues are mainly he never talks about his feelings towards me unless I question him when he said he is still Unsure whether he loves me and cannot say it but asked me to be patient.
This was 10 months into our relationship. Would love some replies as as I am feeling desperately unhappy since this shock reply. I should also add that he asked me to go interstate with him for a few days in a couple of weeks time and we also planned a two week holiday this August some months ago, and wondering whether he is staying with me because we have this holiday planned and paid for.
He is a highly successful businessman and also has said that he has never been verbally affectionate but that is not my main worry. He was actually widowed for two years when we met online and I was the second Meeting for him.
He has only ever had one woman, his wife, in his life. He moved away from the family home after six months and virtually just walked out and in the same place sense. He often talks gently to his daughter about me and encourages her to be warmer and accepting of me. I have been dating a widower for 6 months now. He broke it off with her after 6 months because she became to possessive and wanted to move in with him. My brother introduced me to the widower and we hit it off right away.
I actually would ask about her and what she was like.
His wife and I went to high school together. Well 2 weeks ago, the first lady started showing up at his house and sit in his driveway for hours until he would come out and talk to her. He was very honest with me while this was going on.
He blocked her number and that is when she started to show up at his house. He finally had to call the police. I had a heart to heart talk with him and told him, I could deal with him missing his wife but I cannot deal with this crazy behavior of the other woman. Though I feel he has done everything he could to control her behavior.
He constantly tells me his heart has turned to stone and he is not the same man he used to be since his wife died. My mind is wandering all over the place. I know he is suffering from depression but he will not seek help or take medication. This is his life and he needs to take control of it and do what he needs to, to make this happen. I know what a grieving spouse goes thru as my brother in law committed suicide 5 years ago and what I am telling him is the same thing I told my sister.
Thank you from my heart. I met a widower 2 months ago we live in other states but we plan to meet soon and share videos and text and talk alot. He had a beautiful marriage as he puts it. Me I have had 3 abusive men in a row. I feel since he had a very successful marriage of 28 years we should leave it at that and just be companions She was not that pretty or sexy and I think somewhere down the line some kind of guilt will pop up because of that.
I have always been the one to break-up in the past and consider myself an exceptional woman in every way He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Oh I forgot to say that we both have kids the same age so we will be empty nesters in a year from now and I have 2 older girls. My son has seen me go through ringer for 10 years with his step father and thinks I should just have a companion too after he moves on after high school.
My girls would like to put me in a box and keep all men away from me as they think no one deserves me. It would be selfish for her to want to keep her dad all to herself I think One day at a time! And I always respected that ,and he respected me but taking her pictures down and stopped bringing her up in everything.
We have been together 6 -7 months now and completely happy in love. How will we all? It has helped many women deal with the challenges of being involved with a widower. I appreciate this thread so much. I have been a widow for 6 years. A man I have known not well for 25 years lost his wife 10 weeks ago. We met for lunch because he said he had some questions. It was pleasant and we are going for coffee soon. I am reluctant to get involved because he has been widowed for such a short time.
It seemed to during lunch that he would like to at least be friends and do things together. This is fine with me but caution alarms are going off like crazy in my head.
I could use some advice on how to proceed. I am open to a deeper relationship but am not interested in moving in or getting married. Perhaps I should wait for a few signals from him to begin the conversation. He may make it clear that this is just a friendship. I lost my wife of just over 25 years of marriage almost 5 months ago now. She was my one and only. We were home bodies and really did not have any friends except for ourselves. Reading this type of article actually helps to be able to see the other side of things.
Yes I am in therapy, and getting better.
The thing that I miss most is the intimacy, i. I do not want to be married again, at least not yetI would like to find someone to share my life with in the future.
I do realize in my heart that I am not ready for any type of relationship, but my mind keeps trying to push me that way. Right now I just want people that I meet, which is not many, that I am a good man. Any advise from the female perspective would be appreciated. Thank you. I am so very sorry for your loss.
It sounds like you had a really special bond. You are in my prayers. I wish you the best in your journey. Well, here goes. His wife passed Junewe met February He went on a few dates prior to me, and said they were not his type. I believed he was being honest. When I first went to his home it was filled with pictures, pictures and more pictures. Some pictures were taken down and her belongings were removed from their home at the actions of his children. His children wanted to make it more comfortable for me.
I appreciated that, however, I feel he should of taken the initiative. We got engaged April We relocated to a new area, new home. I didnt have chance to decorate and he soon placed her picture in the livingroom. I became upset. When is it enough. He still has her photo as his cell phone screen. So, he decided to change it with her initials. I understand memories, we all have them.
What a tough situation. He needs to work through this if the two of you are going to have a life together. I hope it works out.
My first marriage was 27 years. Divorced in I became smitten with a woman from high school with whom I connected on Facebook. We were married in She was diagnosed with breast cancer in and we lost the battle in May of this year. Back inanother woman had shown an interest in me, but she was in the midst of a very nasty divorce. She had become pretty bitter about it. We never spoke after I become involved with my LW. A month after my LW passed, we communicated by private message for the first time.
A month later we met for a casual dinner. We continued to communicate.
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I finally asked her on a date. She admitted to not having any real relationships since her divorce 8 years ago. She said that every time someone got close she would run.
Well, she did that to me as well. We got close, and I felt the push come. I was patient. I put some space between us and let her think it through. When we did finally spend time together, it was very intimate this is a long distance relationship. We have both been well pleased with our time together and apart. I know I am ready. I have been in counseling for 5 months.
I discussed this with my counselor, and she was supportive if I felt I was good with it, knowing that there would still be triggers, and certain times of emotion. My new relationship is hard, not because of me, but because my new friend moves toward me, then away.
She now has broken through and says she loves me, and I her. I hope she gives us a chance. I am 62, she is I am still not completely sure that this will be the kind of unconditional love that I had with the LW, but I have hope.
Sorry for this being so long. I have been dating a widowerfor 16 months, his treatment of me is wonderful, very affectionate, caring and attentive. The problem is he never talks about his feelings towards me, I have asked him how he feels and tells me he is confused and that His late wife is still very much in his life and heart. We are both in our mid 60s and he had one lady in his life, a marriage of 40 years.
He talks of holidays in the future, in which we have planned a year ahead.
He has never been a verbally affectionate person but I am yearning to hear the words I love you after 16 months of relationship. You have every right to hear those words after 16 months. Is he in therapy? Maybe the two of you could see a therapist together and you could bring this up.
I feel for you and yes, you deserve to hear those words. You are not wrong. Hi Jackie, thank you so much for your thoughts. I mentioned therapy for us together but he said that he felt that he wanted to do this alone, and agreed that he needs to see a therapist as he did shortly after his wife passed away.
He has told me he feels guilt, and finds it hard to open up his heart completely to another woman. I brought this A few days ago after it was getting me down and quite overwhelming but still will not discuss his feelings even though I was upset. So, this is YOUR decision. I will say, my gut says, if he loses you, he will take it much harder than you.
Hope that helps. We married in July of this year, and it has been at times, difficult, but mostly, quite wonderful. There are unique challenges and feelings that I have to identify and put into proper perspective.