And when you're dating an awkward girl , there are a lot of things you need to get used to. Some people may have an awkward stage, but they grow out of it-the truly awkward never do. An awkward person may say the wrong things, get themselves into embarrassing situations, and have the ability to make other people feel just as uncomfortable as they do. So here's what you need to know when you're dating an awkward partner, because they're probably different from anyone you've ever dated. She may not be a genius at everything, but her ability to over analyze everything you say, write, or text is amazing. She's also good at doing a play by play in her head over her latest fail.
At least you can be there to catch them when they fall? They might not flirt with you the ways other people flirt. Eye contact or expressing how they feel is likely pretty difficult for them.
They sometimes make weird faces or jokes that no one really seems to get. Just roll with it. Sometimes the lulls of conversation will drive their awkwardness even further and result in them saying something strange.
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I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with. I'll break this down further below, but their central problem is that they're just really anxiousscared, and inhibited around women. Almost all men get a little nervous when they have to ask a woman out, or kiss her, or even talk to her for the first time. But when a guy is really shy his nervousness is at a level where it usually prevents him from doing any of those things.
It's legitimately strong, not something where they can just take a deep breath and push through it. Sometimes this nervousness shows up as the physical symptoms of anxiety.
At other times it's more of a powerful, paralyzing hesitation. Like they know how they want to act, but an invisible force field is preventing them from doing so. This could mean feeling too anxious to start a conversation with an attractive stranger they've just noticed at a party. It can also be longer term.
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Some shy guys, especially younger ones, have had a crush on someone for years and years, and have never worked up the nerve to talk to her.
The occasional time that someone they fancy talks to them first they often get too flustered, and the resulting brief conversation consists of some stuttered half-coherent answers on their part.
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That's not to say a shy guy won't sometimes be able to chat to someone he's into, but it's relatively rare. Sometimes they just won't get nervous around her for whatever mysterious reason.
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At other time they can force themselves to do it, but they're a total mess inside the whole time. One problem that can plague shyer guys is that sometimes their nervousness doesn't appear when they first meet a woman, but comes back to bite them soon after.
Initially they manage to come off as calm and charming and make a good impression, but then fall apart when the stakes get higher. The reason this happens is that when they first run into that woman she's new and they haven't had time to overthink things and attach any nervous feelings to her.
They'll come away from the interaction feeling excited and optimistic about where things may lead. However now they have a reason to feel pressured and jittery around her, and that's exactly what happens. The scenario then goes in one of the following directions: He's too nervous to talk to her again He does talk to her, but is such a withdrawn, obvious wreck that she's not interested He talks to her, but is too nervous to be himself, ends up acting like a goofball, and shoots himself in the foot He's so nervous that at that immediate moment escaping the anxious symptoms takes precedence over anything else, and he acts rude or aloof toward her to purposely sabotage his chance.
This 'setting them up, but not following through' scenario can happen to different degrees. The first is when a guy simply sees a woman around a few times and makes confident eye contact with her. She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for him to approach her. He sees this, gets nervous, and never conjures up the guts to speak to her. Another variation is when a guy runs into a woman, say because he sits beside her in a lecture, chats to her for a bit, and comes off well.
She seems interested.
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Enter the pressure. He can't work up the nerve to talk to her another time. A third scenario might be something more drawn-out, like a guy has a few conversations with a woman he never really thought of as more than someone friendly to talk to.
He notices she seems like she's becoming attracted to him, and he blows things soon after.
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Sometimes a guy will be able to talk to a woman he's interested in, often because the circumstances put them together, so the onus wasn't on him to approach anyone. If they like someone they'll often feel too nervous to ask her out and face the awkwardness and risk of rejection that entails. They may never ask her out, or put it off so long that by the time they do the moment has passed. Even with all of the above stacked against them, a shyer, inexperienced guy will sometimes have enough things go their way that they end up in a position where they're alone with a woman and want to 'make a move' on them e.
Unsurprisingly, they're really nervous and hesitant about this as well.
Same general discomfort and risk of rejection. They may have a blatant, all-systems-go opportunity where the woman is clearly interested, but they can't manage to go through with it.
There they are, sitting on a couch watching a movie with their date when the credits start to roll. She turns to face him, looking into his eyes expectantly.
He returns her gaze and pauses for a moment, and a little longer, and a bit longer still Afterward he's kicking himself for being so spineless. He was trying to work up the nerve to kiss her all evening, and kept wondering if now was the right time to do it, but in the end he couldn't pull the trigger.
One key fear guys have in this situation is if they're sexually inexperienced they're worried their embarrassing secret will be outed, and they'll be humiliated. They may think something like, "I've never kissed a woman.
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I don't know what I'm doing. What if she can tell I've never done this before?
And when you're really inexperienced yourself it seems that's pretty much every woman. Part of this comes from a belief that no woman would be interested in a shy guy if she's had already had a few boyfriends.
It also goes back to that point I mentioned in the last paragraph about them fearing their inexperience being outed. This hinders a shy guy in two ways. First, they'll often rule out more obviously experienced women as prospects.
Only harmless, innocent-seeming women don't arouse their fears. But there are only so many women out there who are just as shy, innocent, and inexperienced as them, so it really cuts down their possibilities, and makes them put that much more pressure on themselves when they do find one who fits the description.
Secondly, if he's into a woman, and she seems into him, and she says something that draws attention to her comparatively higher level of experience e. She seems a lot more daunting now. And they figure, why would she want him? She has experience, he doesn't. It'd never work out.
With time many anxious guys can slowly face their fears and gain enough experience with the opposite sex that they're not as held back by their anxiety as they used to be. They can start dating like everyone else. However, they may always have a tougher time of it than some men. They're often late bloomers, since their nerves and general social awkwardness kept them from getting into the game as early as everyone else.
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