Dating anyone is a challenge. Relationships aren't easy and take a lot of work - we all know this. But there is a special kind of challenge involved when it comes to dating someone with anxiety. When an anxiety spell is coming on, there is no reason to siphon; there is no way to calm down until you just do calm down. It's something that can't be controlled and it can be very overwhelming for both parties. As someone who has been dealing with an anxiety disorder for most of my life, I can understand the baggage that my boyfriends are taking on as a result. I've come to terms with what I have on my plate, but I never stop to take a moment to appreciate and comprehend the struggles involved with making a relationship work from the other person's perspective.
There are certain milestones you wait for in every relationship. First kiss, becoming exclusive, meeting the parents But what happens if you just skip past one? A big one? In relationships , we place certain expectations on people based on what we perceive should be happening. In reality, everyone brings their own baggage to the relationship. Everyone has their own insecurities and needs. And everyone is trying to merge two timelines onto one.
This rule spurs probably one of the most unpleasant waiting games you ever have to play in a relationship. I might as well have cut my heart out, slapped it on a plate and served it to him raw. That caliber of awkwardness almost killed me. We spent an entire day bike riding. There was something about exploring a new place with him that really got me. It was then that I knew I was a goner, but I did my best to stifle my feelings.