The only opinion from guys was selected the Most Helpful Opinion, but you can still contribute by sharing an opinion! I've been talking to this guy, it will be a year in November Now these are the pros and cons of the relationship. It's a big deal considering that his dad is in the Navy. And he likes me, so that a plus.
I called him, but he ignored the call. No response. I love him, but after two months of waiting for him to tell anyone and i really have not badgered him at all about it, is it really worth it for me to stay? Am i overreacting? I need advice, thank you. I have been dating a man for two months now. He holds my hand in public, has introduced me to his best and most close and personal friends, and the few family members he has that live in this state.
The sex is unbelievable, its fun, its sexy, its fufilling. Even if you make good money that is just, NOT fun. Everything he does in our dating routine is better than any man has EVER treated me, and its amazing. I was SO happy with him and the exact nature of our relationship, because I can see this man, and still go out and flirt and be who I am without concern or worry that it will offend a person or go against our relationship. It was beautiful. THis was the perfect relationship in my eyes, this man could do NO wrong in my eyes.
But THEN wait shit another great thing about this man he tried to teach me the difference between then and than but I have forgotten so I hope I am using the right one my gf that I live with started bugging me about him. She told me he is SO great you would be stupid not to snatch this man up before someone else does and instantly started nagging and pressuring me about locking this thing down and over the past two weeks I have suddenly started doubting him and his intentions and the relationship.
I say the only good thing I have working for me is that I am never a woman to say how I feel without deep thought over it, so I havent gone off the deep end and started nagging this man. But I started going crazy in my own right bc of my crazy gfs. THis article is a godsend for me bc it confirms exactly as I was prior to talking to my friends. If its not broke dont fix it. Why in gods name do I need a stupid label or title when this man is giving me every inch of everything I have ever desired in a man or a relationship with the pressure and scariness of a title.
Hallelujah I can breathe!!! This article was so important to read at this exact moment in my life, THANK you a thousand times over. Your comment even more than this article helped me to realize that I love what I have with my man and the appreciate it instead of worrying about a silly title. Thank You! Ive been seeing a guy for 3 months now.
Ive been wondering for awhile why he hasnt asked me to be his gf yet.
We text every single day. Try and spend as much time together which is hard since we go to different school, but because of that we make sure to spend time together on the weekends. He has met my mother but im not sure if his parents even know about me. Its not like people dont know we are together; there are pictures on fb, twitter, etc.
And we have gone out to public places many times and have been seen as a couple. Many people assume that we are dating and are suprised when they ask me if we are dating and i respond no.
But still, their opinion sometimes does get stuck in my head. We can use yesterday october 2, as an example. He even referred to it as an anniversary like a couple would. All my friends just think that he is playing me, using me for sex, etc. I tell them theres more than that, i can feel it. I think im starting to fall on love with this guy! And i want him to WANT to call me his gf, not feel like hes being forced to. I googled on why the EXACT same situation that girl in the main story was going through what I was going through too and to my suprise what you told her made me open my eyes up a bit.
I never really knew the answer to why I stopped being with him or continued. The thing is that HIS behavior is changing a bit. He starting to become jealous of every guy I meet. And he said that I was now taking HIM for granted and that I stopped being as loving and caring as before. Did I do something wrong took it too far or is this a normal reaction?
Be affectionate towards him, but at the same time let him know that you are your own person. Although I am not an expert.
How do you stop acting like the girlfriend? How do you make it clear that he might lose you, in order to trigger a little fear of losing me? Also, I tried doing this by withdrawing a little bit and he got all upset saying that I was cold and distant and he felt I stopped caring and that I used to be more lovey-dovey a few months ago. Did I take it to far? Should I just keep going out with my friends and meeting new prospects and at the same time being as caring and loving as always?
The man is a big baby and is using emotional blackmail against you. I have the same problem. I even browse in the internet to find the answer, then I come to this site I joined it afterward. I dated a guy for 6 months, he travel a lots for his work. We went holiday, party or whatever we could do to be together. I know his parents and friends well. I told him that I am not even thinking to get married I am still student!
I feel i lost interest in him. I start pull away slowly now. I hope it is the best idea. Just go out to dinner with another guy. The drinks with another. That should either cause him to say F ck it and leave, he may do nothing or he may try to secure you as his own.
Either way you know wassup. It is actually an acronym coined by Dan Savage, a sex advice columnist. Aka what are you waiting for?
Honestly, it sounds like a friends with benefits deal to me. I've been seeing a guy for over a year and we're still not official, but we live two hours apart and don't get to see each other much. At the same time though, I don't feel like he doesn't want to be with me. He doesn't treat me like a friend. If we lived closer, we would be together. Ive been dating this guy for over a year now, and he won't make it official, he keeps saying he's not ready,but the funny thing is, he keeps bringing me to his mums house, takes me out whenever he's got free time, I even lived with his family for jankossencontemporary.com: Eric Charles. This site is NOT an offer for prostitution. Money exchanged for time is for modeling and companionship only. No fees or tips of any kind will Dating For A Year And Still Not Official be quoted, negotiated, assessed, or collected in exchange for any sexual Dating For A Year And Still Not Official conduct. Client understands and agrees that sexual relations between client and model will NOT /
Hey I met this guy this July that just passed. It started off as an attraction but we were both into each other.
This guy was talking to a bunch of other girls too and i did not like it. We ended up in a bunch of things where I officially deleted him off everything and OFF my bbm.
His response was. I said Okay fine, we ended up hanging out and I guess he never deleted me. Long story short. One day I went out and we were suppose to hangout together with a bunch of ppl so he did but i didnt because I got upset that I had no ride so I hungout with some guy I work with. This guy ended up asking me out!!
All night he was txting me and asking me what i am doing and to come over and he wants me to over. I said no, im already out. I went home and back to sleep I woke up withh a bunch of msges from him telling me to come over. I ended up telling him we shudnt hangout anymore some guy asked me out and i think i shud give it a shot. HE totally flipped out hes like wow how can u do this to me? I did not give a shit about the other guy who asked me out because at this point i really like this guy who ive been hanging out with.
I told him 2 days later tht i left the other guy and ever since we became like a couple. And one time i brought up the relationship thing and he said hes not rdy but he does not want to lose me he just wants me and he is happy. So i said okay. I got happy and told him the same. He was hurt before. And now in total its been 9 months without asking me out. I mean i dont know. I feel silly even worrying about it. He is crazy about me.
Long story short. I had to tell him because I felt like I was cheating. I talked to this new guy til around Late November. The whole time I was talking to him, JJ would keep in touch with me.
You only emphasized exactly what my gut was telling me. You tell it like it is and you verified my depressed belief. I thank you for your honesty. I only hope other girls get the message. Eric Charles. Hey Erica. I hope that you make whatever decisions you have to make at this moment and you go on to find true love. Good luck and thank you for the comment and kind words. My Storey: I went on a date with a guy from a dating website, we chatted for some time and then met up after he returned from a holiday.
While he was away, he saw his ex they had been seperated about 6 months and got closure that she had moved on. We slept together, but he also slept with the other girl too.
All the time we had been seeing each other he had acted like he really cared about me though saying he could see himself falling in love with me but that scared him. Then on New Years eve me and him slept together again. Ever since, we have spent a lot of time together but he is still in contact with the other girl, they had a long weekend booked which they just came back from, where they shared a room.
I feel like I have two choices: Walk away and just be friends but then we will lose the closeness we have. Or I can wait and see if he develops feelings. Thing is, until he returned from the long weekend he was acting keen, he introduced me to his mum and dad, he would invite me over and ask me to stay all weekend then this Thursday we was really off-ish. Looking away, being distant, trying to make out I was the problem not him! He said he has been having dreams about his ex the one he only got closure from 3 months back during his holiday.
Any advice men? Do you really want to be tossed around until he figures things out? You know, a relationship that has no committment, yet all the physical and emotional perks.
We never had sex but we got close. He even talked me into staying one time by telling me to have a little faith in him, that he would eventually want a relationship with me, he just wasnt ready now.
We were only seeing each other for 3 months, but it was really hard to be casual. I wanted more. He finally told me he couldnt give me what I wanted, so I ended it. Worse thing about it is that he says he still cares about me and wants to be friends.
He even took me to meet his parents. Talk about rough. IDK what to do. He is a great guy who I want in my life, but I want to move on. All I do is think about the past, when he was into meand it hurts. He is blocking you from the good life you are meant to have. But i do really like him and want to give it a go.
When we first met he offered me back to his and i assured him i wasnt that type of girl and that i wasnt looking for just sex, given a situation i had just left. We ended up at mine because it was closer but he stuck to his word and we sat and spoke all night and it was really nice. Our situation became more intimate and we make each other laugh, both feel easy to open up to one another bout our familys, personal experiences etc.
Jul 05, Dating a year and still not official Home › Forums › Complicated Situation / Mixed Signals › Dating a year and still not official This topic contains 3 replies, has 1 voice, and was last ated by lex 3 years, 9 months ago. Jul 19, I'm not suggesting he's embarrassed of you, or that he's dating someone else - though both could be true because love hurts - it's still v bizarre that you don't know more about each other's Author: Annie Foskett. Dating For A Year And Still Not Official Today she was incredibly flirty and asked if I'd be interested in dropping in for a chat Dating For A Year And Still Not Official I know she meant something more than a chat and and she gave me her phone number so watch this space /
He is really busy with work and stuff and currently his living situation and also family stuff. He had to cancel alot recently and the last time he cancelled on me i said to him basically i felt a bit silly asking him to do stuff all the time so he can contact me when its more convenient for him instead of me pestering him etc.
The next day he phones me at midnight knowing i go to my favourite club every friday where we met confirming i was out and asking did i want to meet up as he was in town too i told him i would phone him back. So i phoned him back and we arranged to meet we both left our clubs early and met up. We got a taxi back to mine and i had found out he up and left his friends birthday to come see me which i told him he shouldnt have!
My problem is i have two friends who are aware of my situation. One looks at it negatively and one looks at it more positively like my wee devil and angel on my shoulders lol the negative one had got me a bit worried that fact he didnt want to label the situation but the postive friend pointed out his general attitude towards me doesnt seem like he just wants sex from me and didnt shy off when i brought up the situation or indicated that i wanted it to progress into something more eventually.
Regardless of finding them physically attractive what makes them think that even if they did decide to pursue you, that you would automatically wanna be with them.
Guys should know that they too are being tested, yes tested for their shallowness and selfishness. Let guys sing to your tune and dont sing to theirs! He is saying this in other words to exclude the relationship factor. He may be afraid of commitment or just wanna have fun. Its good to talk about these things so u know what lines not to cross. For my guy, he doesnt want me sleeping with anyone else but also doesnt want in on a relationship just yet.
BUT if ur not comfortable with it then screw him and on to the nxt one! Okayso when do you decide to actually make that leap into something official? Will you forever be single because you fear what might happen?
Also have you considered that you might just be a bad boyfriend? Hello, Im in a same dillema as many here. I been dating my guy for almost a year and still no comiment. I get fustrated and try to walk away but follows me after.
He is one most shyest guys i met so sometimes that why he acts like that. I know he cares about me casue hes brought me around his family and friends and spends every weekend with me.
I dont like that i get anxiety and i just want to be with this guy cause hes one the most nicest and respectful guys i ever met. I usually dont date his type and go more for the bad boy. I just wanted to say that I posted my story on December 22nd and as of January 2nd, he started calling me his girlfriend.
I told him that really, not much was going to change if we were in a relationship, except that we would have a title. Especially since we had both agreed already that we were not seeing anyone else and were not going to.
My response, was basically that you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Before I could break things off though, he said that he felt that I was right, that I deserved the respect and treatment from him that the title entails.
He said that he was being ridiculously weird about the title of girlfriend, and that in most respects I already had been for weeks so he was going to stop being so distant and start calling me his girlfriend. Thanks anewmode!
Happy New Year too. They are now separated, about a year or so, and are not living together, they have a young child. We finally spoke and he told me he regretted his decision and loves my heart and character and just wants to spend time with me. But then he wont answer till the next day now! However, if we spend to much time together he drops off or acts erratic. He begged me not to cut him off and just give him time.
How much time? I feel like I did this with him already, ya know? What is this? Should I end it? Joined: Tue Dec 13, pm. We would hang around after class for minutes everyday and chit chat, before going our separate ways. I had a crush on him very early on, but it was no big deal to me. I often get little crushes on guys in my classes who I think are handsome. One day, feeling brave, I peeked at one of his papers he was turning in so I could catch his name without asking.
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I looked him up on facebook that evening, and he approved my friend request shortly thereafter. By that weekend we were talking non stop, had exchanged phone numbers and were texting all the time. We talked about everything. He started asking me things like what I like to do on a first date, etc.
I could tell he was interested, so I told him I was trouble and he should stay away because I have gone through a lot recently. He responded that because I told him to stay away, he would have to be cliche and fight even harder for me. Everything he said and did was ridiculously sweet. Two weeks later we slept together for the first time when we hung out at his place. It is worth mentioning that he is 28, but currently living at home for financial reasons.
That sucks because his family lives about an hour and 15 minutes from me. Anyways, we slept togetherand for me it was amazing; and continues to be. He also paid me lots of little compliments. He would say he thought I was pretty, that my eyes were beautiful, etcetc. Sometimes when we had deep conversations, we talked about past relationships and damaged goods. In November of last year, the first girl he has ever really loved broke his heart. They had made plans to get married after he graduated, so it was really hard on him.
Flash forward two months, which brings us to where we are now.
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I wrote him a letter telling him that I was beginning to fall in love with him two weeks ago. I addressed the fact that he is not over his ex, saying that I know what it is like to be unable to get over someone, but that I like him so much I would still be interested in him, regardless of his broken feelings from his past.
He drove out here to see me that weekend and said that he is not ready for a relationship, and that he is still messed up over his pastplus he has never much cared for relationships, dating and marriage. He said he was afraid of hurting me because he has done this to some women in the past. Started out really liking them, but then it never grew into anything more. None of his relationships have ever lasted consecutively over 6 months. We have been on one date since then, and we had a lot of fun.
He read the 7 Harry Potter books for me in one week, so that we could talk about them and watch the movies together. We are exchanging gifts and he has invited me to stay over with his family for Christmas Eve. So basically, we are already in a relationship. I am going back in forth between, hold out, be patient as he did say that it was the best way to deal with him.
But I keep hearing what he said about his past relationships in my head.
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What if it never changes, what if I am never special to him like his ex was? He makes time for me, he shares deep emotions with me, we see each other every weekend, even when we are exhausted from our opposite work schedules and the hour drive. He is doing everything a guy does when he cares about you and considers you a girlfriend. He is often at least somewhat affectionate with me in public, so what is the dealwhy is a relationship any different from all of these things we are already doing?
Something to think about. This is true, so how do I go about changing that? Or is the title really even important at this point? I spent Christmas with him, and in every respect he treated me like a girlfriend all weekend. He received tickets to a play in February and told his parents that he is going to bring me with him. Ok So ive been talking to this guy for the past two months that i have been seeing alot. We have been talking everyday since we met and we hang out about times a week.
He works an overnight shift four days out the week including the weekend, on two days he has his 2yr old daughter so he really only has one day to himself which he always spends with me and we always go on a date on that day. I come over to see him and we hang out and watch movies and his daughter is there as well. Ive also met a few of his friends already.
Hes cooked dinner for me and showed that he is very interested in me and i know he cares about me. He said im a priority to him but i just feel like we arent going anywhere. He has showed that he likes me alot, and he is always reaching out to me and has also complained that i never hit him up. I brought it up to him about where this is going and he said he wanted to take things slow and wants to see where it goes.
He did say he could see me as his girlfriend but its been two months and I feel like i could be using my time on somoene who is more about making moves. At times i felt like i was just a convenience and I work out for his schedule and he uses me for his company since he pretty much has no life because of his schedule. Sometimes I go out on weekends and when i do he always wants me to stay up til he gets out so we can hang out which i have done a few times, but im starting to feel like im too good and have more to offer.
My girlfriends are all single and with good reason. But I am not. Not at all. If I never get married that is fine by me. However I have been dating this man for something like 8 months. Come on. Just one. What is the difference?!
I am so good to him. Soo good. One of my guy friends.
I never asked for a title. I never put any pressure on him. He moved in with me on his own merit. And it slips out of my mouth one wine filled evening and I get backhanded so hard I still have whiplash. I just started dating a man I am good friends with. We have been friends for about two and an half years and have been dating for just two months.
We initially met for dating but it never transpired and we just stayed good friends over the years, though I did think that there was a little more to it than that. Since we were friends I have never known him to have a girl.
We were out for our usual drinks and banter when he initiated things with me. However I can feel him resisting the natural flow of things- its like he wants to put a cap on how much we see each other, what type of communication we have and the pace of things in general.
I did gentile bring up the subject with him and that illuminated a lot of mixed feelings from him. He went on to say that he thought I liked him more than he liked me and was worried about endangering our friendship. He asked me that I just bare with him with regards the pace of things and see where things go from there. But since then I have been awarded new opportunities here and decided that it was not the right time to go.
He was fine when I told him. I said that I wished to see him a little more and asked if we could find a happy balance for both of us. He was upset, I was upset the whole thing was completely out of hand! What to do?! My situation is almost the exact same.
He says he just likes to make sure he knows the girl really well first and can trust her. The title thing bugs me, sure. I know people get blinded by romance but I would like to thank you for giving advice not to let your friends influence your happiness.
Thank you :. We are staying for that hope, that things will get better. Sometimes I think that is my problem. Ive spent so long on him already, and keep on, deep downthinking that eventually it will all work out. Yet logically speaking why waste time on something when in the present its already proving to be much much much less than what you deserve?
However, your story of being with your guy for three years scares me as I feel like this could easily be me. Then that would really hurt! I must find the strength to walk away as you should too. There will be some guy out there proud to call me his girlfriend and want to shout it from the roof tops.
I just need to get the guts to break contact once and for all and go find that guy.
Im actually studying for exams right now and reading this article just made me break down. I really hope all you girls realise that we all have a choice in what we accept from a guy.
Except I know how hard it is. He still hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend even though he knows thats what I want. Weve been so close that I am sure if I left him it would be so hard for him to get over me. We bascially see each other throughout the week and doing everything physical and boyfriend and girlfriend would do for three years.
But that fact is he refuses to call me his girlfriend. Its so obvious that all girls in this situation deserves better, but when your in the situation yourself you realise its so not black and white and its a cycle of blaming yourself for not having more respect, yet confused and unable to leave at the same time.
My advice to all of you is to leave after six months. Why are all of us asking why we cant leave? It really really sucks guys.
Whats going to happen to us? If I left how much would it hurt answer. I never thought I could accept this, but I do. I enjoy my freedom and have other male friends, but have no desire for intimacy with them. I am retired and moved here to work with him and for the relationship companionship, friendship, etc. We have so much in common and are extremely compatible.
We make no demands upon each other, nor have a time limit upon the relationship. This guy is having his cake all over town and eating it too. We live in a small town and I know he heard about it. Did he atleast text to see if I was ok? Nope, not a peep. The advice you gave, is exactly what comes out of this guys mouth that I have known for a year.
I liked him a lot, but he really screwed me over when he got a girlfriend. Btw, he had also told ne that we were starting fresh and that he did not know he wanted a serious relationship until he met me. A good looking girl and take care of myself physically. Why did he feel the need to hide us? We went everywhere together and met all his friends but ge would just tell them I was his friend.
We got a long so well. Why would anyone fake affection for that long. Poof, into thin air. It must have been a sick game he was playing. I dropped my guard completely when I gave him a second chance and in the process, went into it with my heart.
Thank goodness it was only six months and not six years. Joanna, the man is a narcissist. You are an unpaid emotional employee for him. He likes you and sees you as an employee.
You have inconvenienced him. He is not necessarily evil. Its just all about him. VERY long story short, I saw a guy for six months. At around the 4 month mark, after I heard him mention that he enjoyed his freedoom and liked being single, I asked him if he really wanted a relationship and what exactly are we doing if you do not?
He said he was not sure if he wanted one or not. Well, I told him that maybe we should step back for the weekend, take sometime and figure out if we are right for eachother. I said if he truly wanted to be with me, he would not be so unsure, hence the need for some space.
At the end of the weekend, he was still unsure and so I said it was best if we went our seperate ways. We did not speak for two days and the after that, then the barage of emails, texts, calls and chasing began.
We split up from mid-July to the third week in August. Well from the span of the time above, he relentlessly pursued me, took awesome care of me when I was recovering at his house post-surgery even bought all my groceries, medications and feminine products and fed me my entire supper the first night because I was in so much painemails about our special connection, cards, flowers and took me to a very, very expensive dinner for my birthday.
So, finally I relent and get back together with him. From the first day back together, he said he did not want labels and did not want to use the title girlfriend.
After all the chasing you have done? I, however, held on to all the words and kind gestures that he had made over the last 5 weeks.
BIG mistake. Guess what? He even laughed at me when I cried. Man, was that a painful and humiliating experience to go through. So, that my friends, is why I will never again be with a man that does not want to label me his girlfriend. I gave him my heart and he trashed it. Also, yes. This is particularly true if you and your partner have plans to combine your finances via marriage or buy a home in the next few years.
But don't let that scare you off. Before hitting your one year anniversary, there are many topics that should be discussed. This could include your credit score.
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Discover offers a Free Credit Scorecard, and it won't impact your credit score. It's totally free, even if you aren't a Discover customer. Terms apply. By Suzanne McKenzie. So, after one year of dating, what should you know about each other? Health History It's not exactly the most romantic of subjects, but nevertheless, it's one that begs to be discussed. Plans To Settle Down After a year, it makes sense that you should know where your SO stands on the traditional notion of "settling down.
Family Dynamics Family dynamics are complicated no matter what your story is. I've tried to explain to my dad that "I'm not looking for a relationship" is a normal thing people who are actively dating say nowadays. I don't care how busy they are; if things were going to progress, you'd be hanging more than once a week. If you "find that he doesn't save weekends for you but only schedules a once a week date on a Tuesday night, he's likely not that committed to the relationship," explains Salkin.
Ask your boo to hang twice in one week and see what their response is. If there is any waffling, move along. Maybe you're both traveling all of the time for work, or even living in separate cities. No excuses. Not everyone loves text banter, but if whatever you've got going on is moving towards relationship land, you should both miss each other when you are apart.
We are all busy.